Online Dating

Tracey Aldous
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There may be several reasons as to why a marriage has broken down. Ending a marriage is a serious matter that shouldn’t be entered into lightly without the aid of professional help.
Marriages may be annulled, couples may separate perpetually, but in most cases the final ending is divorce.
Annulment – Decree of Nullity
An annulment is a court order instructing that a marriage be considered at an end, or should never have legally taken place in the first instance.
Reasons that an annulment may take place could be because of one of the following circumstances:
* the marriage ceremony was not conducted properly.
* the marriage is polygamous – more than one spouse.
* non-consummation – no sex during the course of the marriage.
* failing or refusal to consummate the marriage – refusal to have, or an unceasing dislike to having sexual intercourse with the other spouse.
* one party was suffering from a sexually transmitted infection (STI) at the time of marriage.
* the woman was carrying another mans child at the time of marriage.
* one of the partners was under the age of 18 at the time of marriage. (Consent may be given from the underage partners parents between the age of 16 – 18years making the marriage legal.)
* the marriage was contracted under duress.
* one partner lacked the mental capacity to fully understand what was happening at the time of marriage.
* too closely blood related – examples of this are: parent and child, grandparent and grandchildren, brothers and sisters of half as well as whole blood, uncles and nieces of half as well as whole blood, aunts and nephews of half as well as whole blood, first cousins of half as well as whole blood.
Separation
Separation is when a married couple cease to live together as man and wife. One partner can move out of the marital home or they can both remain under the same roof, separating their lives into different rooms and leading them as if they weren’t married.
There are several ways in which a married couple may agree to separate where each method has its own formalities, drawbacks, and limitations. Couples contemplating separation should ideally consult their local citizens advice bureau or solicitor. None of the following reasons are legal endings to a marriage, however having a separation agreement may go to showing the divorce courts that the couple has agreed on certain aspects;
* deed of separation – the couple ask a solicitor to draw up a legal document in which their agreements are recorded. This may cover parental responsibility, maintenance payments, and ownership agreements of certain items and property.
* Judicial separation – a half way house that falls short of a divorce. It involves the courts to recognise in a formal decree the fact that the couple is living apart.
* informal agreement – the couple agree verbally or exchange letters establishing a written agreement to separate.

Danielle Peck
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Well, adult dating has certainly entered the new millennium. Whether it’s services like Dating on Demand, soon to be launched by Comcast Cable, Match.com or a chat room, lonely lookers are no longer limited to barroom banter while searching for their soul mate. If alcohol is your forte’, grapedates.com can match you up with another wine enthusiast to smell the bouquet with video chats, video emails, and video blogs. Heck, you can even send video flirts to someone’s cell phone! Those daters looking for a little something extra (or married dating) even have websites like AshleyMadison.com, which boasts “When Monogamy Becomes Monotony” and “For Women Seeking Romantic Affairs-and the men who want to fulfill them”, to fill those few remaining waking hours. On the flipside, SoulMatch.com and Christiansigles.com offer Christian dating, Mixedrace.com and Saltandpeppersingles.com offer interracial dating, and Gaymatchmaker.com and Bgay.com offer dating for same sex relationships. Dating services have come a long way since the early 90s, and it seems as if the sky’s the limit. There are some free online dating websites out there, but most charge a fee if you want to have any kind of contact with other members. In fact, online dating accounted for more revenue on the internet in 2004-over $450 million in revenue-than any other form of pay for entertainment web services, excluding internet porn and internet gambling (Thompson, Technology Review, 108:8, 2004). Hmm, just where is all of this online dating headed?
In the future, will we simply wear our dating glasses (fashionable dating glasses, of course)-conveniently linked to our online dating profile-that tell us whose profile fits our own as we walk the beaches, malls, and clubs? The bigger question is, what do we truly want in a mate, and can someone know this when they are filling out an online dating service profile? I think technology has the potential to cut out diversity in relationships, and that could have some pretty serious consequences to the gene pool. Sure, there are some basic human nature issues that should be the same in any relationship (like social versus antisocial, religious versus atheist), but I would hate to live with someone just like myself. Maybe a better profile would simply ask everything you know you cannot stand about other people or activities, and leave the rest of life negotiable. Whether you are looking for teen dating or senior dating, you should always be open for new experiences and different avenues of thought. Thank goodness, we don’t all think, look, and act the same…how boring would that be? Leave your life open for some adventure and diverse thought and then fill out that dating ad.
Another issue that technology dating will have to address for individuals like myself is that of smell and hygiene. Am I just weird, or does this play a role for most people? If a person does not smell good or brush their teeth a few times a day, I could care less whether or not they like to walk the beach or candle lit dinners. I know this may be shallow, but could I have a smell-o-phone please? The point is that as of 2005, dating and technology have yet to address all of the senses that face to face dating addresses, but who knows what the future may hold. Maybe one day we will enter our DNA readout into the singles dating profile and this will match us with our perfect mate. That could be an interesting prospect, especially if this perfect mate doesn’t encompass the characteristics our socialization tells us to look for.
So…daters start your engines…or ready those computers, cell phones, and ipods because the future of dating will definitely encompass technology. I have just a few dating tips or dating advice to remember. Be Cautious about personal information (I cannot stress this enough). Use good judgment and listen to your instincts (if something isn’t right in Denmark…end it now). Take your time getting to know this person-don’t accelerate the process because you are lonely. If you decide to meet, make sure it is in public-preferably in familiar surroundings with friends around for backup (Listen to your friends’ impression of the person as well, because sometimes they will notice things you miss). Most of all, do not sell yourself short for the need for companionship-a good dog is better than a bad relationshiZZZZ

Pradeep Aggarwal
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Although the nervousness of a first date can somewhat hamper the flow of your true and wonderful personality, there are a few signs that you’ll notice when things are really going great. The conversation will flow. There will be a natural rhythm to the dialogue, each person contributing and taking turns in the spotlight. You’ll enjoy listening to them tell you their tales, and you’ll know that they are paying attention to what you have to say.
The sparks will be there. The flirtation will be high, natural and lighthearted. There will be more touching at the end of the date than there was in the beginning. Let there be laughter. Easy, natural humor, laughter, giggles, smiles and comic relief all add to the pleasure and ease of the date.
Ask yourself, ‘what is it that would make you more comfortable”? What could they do for you that would make it go smoother for you? When you answer those questions, you can turn tables and do exactly that for them
o Give them a warm smile
o Make eye contact. Looking at someone directly in the eye gives the sense that you’re open, honest, and paying attention.
o Make them feel welcome by reaching out to them, pulling them closer into your personal space.
o Compliment them on their appearance and accomplishments.
o Draw them into a conversation and then be interested in their responses.
o Be kind, polite, attentive to their needs, gracious, and chivalrous (for men)
o Be relaxed with them and let them follow suit.
Where to go?
A first date should be short and sweet. Since you’re at the initial stages of discovering more about each other, a long date may be more than you can handle. It may become uncomfortable if you find that really don’t have much in common, or that you’ve run out of things to talk about. If the date goes well, then a shorter date will leave you both wanting for more. You’ll part with a pleasant feeling, looking forward for more contact.
Decide
o A full dinner may be too long and complicated. It may involve more of an expense than desired or expected.
o A movie or a concert doesn’t allow to you speak with each other.
o All all-day skiing trip could be tortuous if the chemistry doesn’t happen, and could give rise too all sorts of complications that could bring out the worst in one or both parties.
o A company party or family event has obvious pitfalls and traps
Instead first dates can take place at a coffee shop, over lunch, or at a comfortable bar over a drink. If you’ve determined that you both have dogs, you could’ve a first date walking them in the park and getting an ice cream from the vendor. A sporting event may be acceptable if both parties really have an interest in the event.
We had started this part with a quote, and let me end it with another quote:
“The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people, much more strongly than even the final surrender, because this kiss already has within it that surrender”ZZ

Jack Zavada
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You know the feeling. You close the door behind you and let out a big sigh. It didn’t go well. In fact, it was a disaster.
First dates are stressful even when everything goes right. When you or the other person messes up, a couple hours can seem like an eternity. But after the date is over, what you do next can etch the bad experience into your mind or help you overcome it. Here are some things you can do to recover from a disastrous first date.
1. Forgive yourself.
Most of us, when under stress, do things we wouldn’t normally do. If you talked too much–or not enough–if you laughed too much, if you overreacted to some statement, or if you behaved in a way that was out of character for you, don’t beat yourself up. We’re often harder on ourselves than we would be on another person. Show some compassion toward yourself. Acknowledge that you did the best you could under the circumstances. Admit that it’s natural to feel nervous on a first date. Remember that nobody is perfect, and if you didn’t act like you should have, it isn’t the end of the world. Be kind to yourself by not falling into the self-punishment trap. It’s important to recognize that negative reaction and cut it off as quickly as possible. If you can’t seem to be objective about it, talk it over with a trusted friend.
2. Forgive the other person.
If you’re a decent judge of character, you can usually tell when someone was motivated by nervousness or lack of confidence. Just as you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself, you shouldn’t beat up the other person either. By taking for granted that first dates usually don’t go well, you take a big step forward in emotional maturity. Some people approach first dates with the idea that they’re something to get over with and put in the past. The anxiety of trying to impress the other person frequently causes something to go wrong. Unless the other person was abusive or rude, they deserve a second chance.
3. Be prepared to move on.
If you did something awkward or that warrants an apology, sending flowers is a polite thing to do. And yes, men love to receive flowers! But be prepared if the other person doesn’t wish to see you again, then don’t pester them. Unwanted pursuit of another person is stalking. No matter how much you like the other person or are attracted to them, stop it. You’ll only embarrass yourself or get in trouble with the law.
4. Don’t let the experience affect your self-confidence.
See yourself as a worthwhile, attractive person. You have many good qualities, and just because this person didn’t recognize them, that doesn’t mean there isn’t someone else out there who can. If the other person doesn’t want to see you again, they represent only their opinion, not everyone’s of the opposite sex. A person who believes in himself or herself exudes an attractiveness that can’t be faked.
5. Look for the lesson.
You are a work-in-progress. Wisdom is the sum of knowledge and experience, so take those two and figure out what you can learn from that first date. We all make mistakes, but if we’re wise, we won’t make the same mistake twice. Make up your mind to do things differently the next time, or if you weren’t to blame, decide not to feel guilty when things don’t work out. You deserve someone who will appreciate you for who you really are. Resolve, above everything else, to be kind, honest, and authentic. Eventually you’ll meet someone with those same qualities, and that’s when the real fun begins!

Lisa Stuart
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Have ever been in a relationship where your partner consistently complains about you and/or about the things that you do? Or, did they maybe just make subtle comments but you knew they really meant it? These careless acts play on your insecurities and you may have found that you were changing the things about yourself that they were complaining about or commenting on in an effort to avoid the criticism and/or comments. They might have also threatened to end your relationship if you didn’t change.
You may have convinced yourself because you love the person it is a valid and good enough reason to want to change for them. The bottom line is that it is fear on some level that causes you to change for someone else and not love. Changes, no matter how big or small, are not appropriate if they are for someone else. Any time you change anything about yourself to please another, it will have negative consequences. The moment you change one thing, you may be asked to change another and another and another until there comes a point when nothing you do or say is good enough. You will find that a relationship where you are required to change in an effort to make it work will not survive long term.
Whatever you do from here on out, don’t change for anyone else but yourself! If you do, it will backfire at some point because you are, essentially, squashing the spirit of your true self. Eventually, those aspects of yourself that you thought you had changed will be doing whatever it takes to express themselves. The essence of your true nature cannot and will not be held down for long.
More than likely, these changes that you initially made from ‘love’ will manifest as anger and resentment towards your partner for whom you did the changing for in the first place. If they don’t like who you are, that is not your problem, it is theirs. Remind yourself that you choose who you want to be with and vice versa. And gently remind them that if those things bother them so much, maybe you both should consider the possibility that the relationship won’t work out because you respect yourself. And that means that you won’t change to fit someone else’s idea of what the perfect partner should be like. You are who you are and if they don’t like it, they don’t have to be with you. If they don’t love and accept you just as you are, don’t be afraid to tell ‘em to take a hike.
Above all else, be true to yourself body, mind and soul. You will find that honoring and respecting yourself in that way will more quickly result in attracting and experiencing a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship like you never even dreamed possible.
Warmest Regards,
Lisa StuartZ

Cucan Pemo
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If you are constantly fighting and getting into conflicts
with the love of your life, and are always wondering why
your girlfriend or wife can never understand you, you can do
something to bring back the passion in your relationship
with her. The results you want may not be instant; in fact,
anything which promises you overnight success is always
bogus. However, your desired results will come surely and
certainly, just as the sun would rise from the East every
morning, if you would put in the right effort, patience and
concentration.

Here are some simple strategies to get you started, and
before long, you should be able to break the barriers of
stubborness, of blindness, and of bitterness in your
relationship with your loved one, and replace them with
feelings of affection, warmth, laughter and love for you.

1) BE the solution
Find out for yourself and understand the reasons which
bring about all the fightings, arguments, and even break-up.
You have the power to turn the relationship around to your
favor and create that long lasting and harmonious
relationship which you so desire. Whatever difficulties or
obstables you are facing in your relationship right now,
know that if you change your attitude, your outer
environment will change as well. Be the solution, and start
watching miracles happen.

2) It’s about being the Right man
If you take your relationship seriously, are sure you
want to love this woman all your life, and even keep her by
your side, you have to decide to be the right man to her. By
this, I do not mean to say you have to change drastically
into something else and not being yourself anymore. Trust
me, if you are not being yourself, no women would ever want
to be with you. Women love honest, trustworthy, and
committed men.

One of my clients whom I have worked with previously has
this to say: “If you are happy with the way I have done
something, just tell me so, don’t pretend to be happy just
to please me or pacify me. And don’t pretend to be something
which you are not!” To be the right and true man, you just
have to understand what women want, and give it to her!
There is one immortal truth of life I would like to share
with you, and it is this: If you want to influence any
persons (including your love interest) to your way of
thinking, and to your way of doing things, give them what
THEY want!

3) Women love romance more than what you think
Your woman loves romance, and she wants romance more than
you think she wants! To be romantic and sensitive to her
needs and wants is something which will come naturally to
most men during the courting and wooing phase of their
relationship with a woman. During this period when he wants
a woman badly, he will want to do anything and everything to
win over her heart. He is eager to find out what turns her
on, her likes and dislikes, and what exactly will attract
her. So, what does a man usually do? He will try to be
attractive for the the women of their life! He never stops
dating and courting her, giving her unexpected surprises,
making her jump and squeak with delight. In addition, he
will try very, very hard not to do anything which will turn
her off, or which will not please her.

The truth is, your woman is still looking for romance and
your pampering, even after both of you have reached the
’steady’ phase in a relationship. Thus, your woman can never
get tired of more romance and attention from you,
especially if she really love you. Bear this in mind.

4) Women put Love her Number One priority
“But she is so unreasonable”, “She is too controlling and
manipulative. She always wants to find out my whereabouts.
Who does she think she is? A detective?”, “She is so
damanding, wanting me to call her every single hour of the
day, and if I’m late, or I’ve forgotten to call, I’ve to
watch out!”. These are often the common complaints made by
many frustrated men who cannot seem to figure out what is
going on in their relationship. If you find yourself in
similar situation, here is a solution for you. First, you
have to understand women think and behave very differently
from men. You would not be able to change anyone, including
her, just as she cannot change you. It’s not within our
power to control or change another person. However, you can
try to understand your woman, and know why she thinks and
behaves as she does. With your newfound knowledge of this
woman, you’ll be able to strategise and know what to say and
how to react with the objective of bringing more harmony
and peace to your relationship.

For now, just try to understand that once women get into a
relationship, she will put Love her Number One priority.
Whatever she does, no matter how she says it, it is because
YOU are her number one priority right now! This is how she
sees love and defines love. If she wants you to call, that’s
because she wants to know that you are thinking of her, and
that she is loved. So, what you can do is, if you say you
will call 3 hours later, mean it, and don’t make excuses or
deny if you forget all about it. It means a lot to her. If
you cannot make the call during that point in time, make it
a point to let her know, or text her a message to say it is
inconvenient for you to call. If you take it lightly, and
can’t be bothered to call, guess what will happen? She will
be sitting at home feeling miserable and frustrated,
thinking whether you really love her and care enough to keep
your promise, and very likely she will end up wondering if
there is something very wrong with HERSELF!

The factors leading to a relationship or marriage break-up
are often not because of the differences between men and
women. It is your attitude and methods of treating these
differences that matter. If you will put in the heart and
soul to really understand your woman, and BE the solution,
you will be able to save your breaking relationship. To
create a long-lasting and harmonious relationship or
marriage, patience, tolerance, and perserverance are the
keys.

Barbara White
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“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows” Ben Stein
Life would be difficult without the blessing of significant relationships as an integral part of our lifestyle. However although relationships can be the source of much joy and happiness, they also can frequently be a source of pain, stress, conflict and anxiety. It is a sad factor that when we have a close relationship the openness and vulnerability that we share with that person has the ability to bring both happiness and also pain.
There is a natural response when we feel hurt to protect ourselves from being hurt again. Frequently this protection involves creating a wall around the heart, distancing the emotions to avoid pain. This very act may well protect a person from feeling more pain, and keep it at bay, but also means shutting out the potential of enjoyment in the relationship as well. A wall keeps out both good and bad!
Unfortunately it is a fact that too many people become detached from potentially meaningful relationships through misunderstanding and assumptions about the other person. The reality is we can never fully know a person and understand them, and often we see things from a totally different perspective, and even speak a different emotional language. A tone of voice, a look, or a comment can easily be misinterpreted, and our response is to feel hurt or offended. If this happens it is all too easy to into a pattern of assuming and responding to that assumption until the whole incident becomes a large issue.
How does this situation occur? The basic problem arises from the fact that people are afraid of what they don’t know. They assume facts that may not in reality exist, and then build prejudices around those assumptions. Bad decisions are then made based on those assumptions, on rumors, other people’s opinions or perceived behaviour.
Many of these situations could have been non events, if time had been taken to check out the actual facts. If a person is aware of the actual facts about a situation, person, problem or opportunity, then decisions can be made based on what is real rather than what is being perceived. “There may be some substitute for hard facts, but if there is, I have no idea what it could be.” J. Paul Getty
For example, I go to a social function and meet my friend. She has a scowl on her face, seems aloof and practically ignores me and my efforts at friendly conversation. It would be easy for me assume that she is mad at me, and spend a lot of energy wondering what I had done to upset her. I may start tiptoeing around her anticipating a blow up. A healthier alternative for our relationship would be to say “You don’t look happy, what’s going on?” By checking out what the real facts are I will either discover whether I really did do something wrong, or that something has happened that I don’t know about that is totally unrelated to me. Either way I am in a better position to help lighten her mood as I know the actual facts.
When communication issues occur in a relationship the best way to find out the truth is to ask questions to discover what the other person actually means. What a person means can be very different from an interpretation from your different perspective. Sometimes people may make a statement, and not tell you the reasons why they said it. This can lead to a minefield of speculation and assumptions. This can often happen when communicating with men. A man tends to answer questions with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’, (or a brief response) and not give any explanation for his position. Women are more likely to give reasons. So by asking questions such as ‘Do you mean……’ you will get more clarity and will not be left wondering what is going on.
It does take more commitment to the relationship to push through communication difficulties and not rely on assumptions. We prefer to not speak or confront when we sense an atmosphere, or feel hurt by a comment. However if you keep to the adage ‘When in doubt, Check it out’ and push through those uncomfortable feelings you will reap the benefits in the relationship. Your relationship will become stronger and you will gain a greater understanding and appreciation of each other. So……… Don’t doubt, Check i

Dan Ohler
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Do you know why dogs have so many friends? It’s because they wag their tails rather than their tongues.
I was walking through a park in Calgary, Alberta, pondering ways to enhance business and personal relationships in our stress-filled society. The lesson bounded across the park and almost knocked me over.
A young woman was walking her dog. More correctly, the dog was walking the woman. It was a huge, black dog with short hair, big floppy ears, a long stocky tail, and feet the size of saucers. It looked like a Labrador crossed with a St. Bernard.
It darted this way and that, from one tree to the next, nose to the ground, as if searching for a rabbit.
Suddenly, it stopped, looked around, and noticed something more interesting in the park – people.
The dog ran across the park to a sullen-looking elderly man, walking as if he was in pain. The dog swung around and strutted alongside this gentleman, head held high as if on parade, tail wagging from side to side. The man reached down and patted the dog’s head. I could see that the man was talking to the dog. His scowl turned into a big smile.
The dog spotted a group of children, and off he went. He circled around them and then stopped. A small girl walked up to him, arms outstretched, and he planted a big sloppy lick on her cheek. The girl giggled and hugged him. The other children gathered around and patted him as his stiff tail swung from side to side, occasionally knocking one of the children over. He’d turn and lick the child as if to say “Whoops. Sorry.” The children laughed and giggled.
He noticed me and bounded across the park, circled around me several times and then stuck his big nose into my hand. I laughed as I scratched him behind the ears. The back end of his body seemed to be controlled by the wagging tail.
Off he went in a flash to a man and woman, strolling hand in hand. He walked in between them and looked up at their faces, tail wagging furiously. I could hear them talking and laughing.
The friendly canine noticed two well-dressed men on the sidewalk, each carrying a briefcase. By their faces, they appeared to be in a serious discussion, or possibly an argument. Their facial expressions were from concern to ridicule to contempt. The dog roared off toward them and stopped about a meter away. He crouched, cocked his head to the side inquisitively, perma-wag still happening. The men noticed him and both started to laugh as they coaxed the dog closer to pat him. As the dog bounded off, the two men strode along the sidewalk, with a more pleasant look on their faces.
Wherever the dog went, he had friends. All he did was wag his tail. He did not make a sound. He exuded energy, excitement, and love in every move. His tail wagging was an unconditional gift to everyone he met.
Most of us don’t have a tail to wag, yet we can implement the same dog-gone leadership strategies.
- Be energetic, strong, and proud. Keep your head held high, move quickly and “on purpose” rather than because you “have to”.
- Be interested and supportive of others’ needs, without getting caught-up in their “stuff”.
- Be friendly and listen, without interrupting, or judging.
- Leave when they still want more of you. You’ll be welcome next time.
Be a dog-gone good friend and leader. I challenge you to wag your tail more than your tongue.
Be aware of your impulse to interrupt, prove, probe, and blame. Hijack the impulse, close your mouth and listen, wag your tail, and leave on good terms. It is much safer and less stressful.
Use these dog-gone leadership strategies, and I guarantee you will be happier and healthier. You’ll have energy to play in the park, relaxing time to lay in the sun, and you’ll have friends wherever you go.
Copyright© ZZZZZZ

Jill Dellamalva
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“What time do you want to go to my family’s house on Christmas Eve?” you ask your boyfriend of two months. You’re looking forward to introducing him to your relatives because you’ve been bragging to them that your relationship has been perfect so far.
That is, until you hear his response to your question.
“Oh,” he says, turning a little red. “I didn’t think we’d be spending the holidays together with each other’s families. You know, we’re just dating.”
“Oh, sure,” you say, “I knew that.”
You proceed to go home, shut off your cell phone, block him on your Instant Messenger buddy list, and write him a 5-page email explaining that he led you on to believe you were special, and that you need to break up with him now.
If you didn’t get that far yet, girls, then listen up. Let’s explore what the phrase “just dating means”, apply it to your relationship, and plan what to do to move from “just dating” to “couple” status IF your guy is worth it. So, how do you know if he’s worth it?
You see, there is a “Type A” sort of guy, and there is a “Type B”. Simply put, one isn’t worth it, and the other has potential. As a female in search of a solid, healthy relationship, you must be able to distinguish between the two.
Let’s begin with “Type A”. This one is a real charmer. He can either be shy or outspoken, but certain characteristics definitely set Type A apart from the rest. Believe me, you’ll know if you’re dating Type A. He frequently breaks plans with you at the last moment. Type A will not make a habit of picking you up at your house for a date – you’ll usually have to meet him somewhere. When he does pick you up, he’ll oftentimes drop you off early so he can do something else – such as go out with his friends. His friends will usually even be around on your dates. Type A tends to be selfish, materialistic, and perpetually unsatisfied with everything and everyone he comes across.
The word “commitment” terrifies Type A. Type A claims to be either too young or not at the point in his life to be prepared for a relationship. He wants to “see what is out there before settling down”. He expects you to date him, while at the same time understanding his need to be with other women. Type A checks out potential dates while you’re standing right next to him.
“I think you’re a nice enough person for me to hang around with”, Type A is thinking, “But I know someone even nicer is bound to come along.”
Listen up, girls. Type A is irresistible to you because he has made himself unattainable. Of course you want him. You always want what you can’t have, and he knows it. He loves it. He thrives on it. But no matter how you try to sugarcoat, justify, or argue it – to Type A the phrase “just dating” means exactly how it sounds: no strings attached, no commitment, no relationship.
You are not going to change Type A’s mind. You are never going to be his girlfriend. Accept it. Give up. Forget him. Move on. More often than not, Type A will appear at your door 5 years down the road, when he realizes that he blew a good thing. And more often than not, you will slam the door in his face.
But don’t despair. You may just have yourself a “Type B” instead.
Unlike Type A, Type B tends to have had long-term relationships in the past. This is a good sign, signaling that he doesn’t have a phobia of commitment. However, he may have been hurt deeply by a past long-term sweetheart. He is usually someone who has a good relationship with his family; perhaps he’s a bit of a Mama’s Boy. He goes out of his way to help little old women cross the street. You are attracted to his kindness of heart, and this is what makes him irresistible to you. And unlike Type A, he will pick you up for a date, and perhaps even bring you flowers. He shows respect for you. He tends to be smart and analytical, looking at a decision from all angles before making it. He claims not to want to hurt you by jumping into a relationship too fast. So he tells you that perhaps you should “just date” for now. You take this as an insult, a blow-off line, an easy way out.
But STOP! Turn that phone back on. Put his screen name back on your buddy list. Mr. “Type B” is in the process of making his decision, girls. And he’s not taking it lightly. I know, when you are infatuated with someone it is not easy to be patient. But Type B may be worth the wait. Remember, familiarity breeds comfort. Let Type B get used to you. Let him want to be with you, and you alone. Let him make the moves. Let him come to you when he is ready. DO NOT pursue or chase him DO NOT get impatient with him, and throw fits of rage about how you don’t understand him. You see, he is weeding out exactly that type of girl – the type that doesn’t understand him. You will be irresistible to him simply by having a wonderful attitude, a huge smile, and the desire to show him that you want to get to know him as a person. Be his friend above all, because that is the foundation of any good relationship. So this Christmas you may not be sitting at his family’s table. But next Christmas he may be giving you a wedding ring. More often than not, Type B’s live on the same side of the door with us 5 down the road.

Dorothy Lafrinere
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Do you feel your brains turn to mush as soon as cupids arrow spears your heart?
Did your heart ever become your goal?
Did he become your world?
Do you feel the need to control him?
Do you want to be his everything?
Did you ever change your entire world to be with him?
Did he, for you?
Do you want his eyes to be only on you?
Do you feel like you can never say anything right?
Do you try to share your thoughts with him, only to alienate him?
Do you tear your hair out every time he looks at you like you are an alien?
Do you wish today was as sweet as the first day that you laid your eyes on him?
Do you wish you had never heard any stories about his past?
Do you wish he never heard yours?
Do you expect him to read your mind?
Do you think you can read his mind?
Do you worry about things that he cannot even comprehend?
Do you imagine his answers, when he gives you none?
Do you constantly question his feelings for you?
Do you question his every decision?
Do you feel like a wallflower?
Do you wish he would not interpret your needs for weakness?
Did you grow up believing love would be safe and non confronting?
Do you like the feeling of mistrust?
Does he?
Do you feel that you are the only one in this relationship?
Did you ever think that you would feel so torn apart when you argued with someone?
Did you think that you could be so hateful with someone you love so much?
Did you ever look just at someone and just feel total unconditional love for them?
Did you think that he too would feel incompetent during sex?
Do you know that he too suffers when you look upon him with disappointment?
Does he try to reach out to you in his time of need for affection and understanding?
Do you turn away from him, hoping that he will turn to you?
Do you feel like hiding from his eyes when you feel threatened by another female?
Does he understand you at that time?
Does he support you when you feel weak and failing?
Do you support him?
Do you allow him inside your head when all you want to do is die?
Do you come home and ask him how his day was?
Do you reach for him in the quiet of the night?
Does he reach out for you?
Does he make you feel sexy with just one look?
Do you crave his touch?
Does he kiss you passionately?
Do you kiss him back?
Do you love him with all your heart and soul?
Would you die for him?
Would he die for you?
HMMMMMM!
I know that I have definitely reached each one of you reading, with at least one of these thought provoking questions. Did you ever think such a small sweet word like LOVE could be so full of emotions and feelings? Love has so many meanings:
Love means trust, even when all the cards are against you.
Love means understand at all costs.
Love means accept all without question.
Love means allowing a stranger into your heart.
Love means smiling when anyone else would frown.
Love means hugging when he cries.
Love means being silent when silence is needed.
Love means putting his feelings first.
Love means being fair.
Love means expecting fairness.
Love means commitment.
Love means fitting together.
Love means laughter.
Love means partnership.
Love means being independent.
Love means forgiveness.
Love means patience.
Love means pain.
Love means sacrifice.
Love means supporting.
Love means feeling complete.
Love means never going to bed mad.
Love means GIFT.
If you have the gift of love, cherish it, nurture it, and treat it with respect.
Never push it away, or hurt it. Never, ever abuse it, or treat it like a door mat. Embrace it.
To have the gift of love is truly an inner beauty feeling. People say they love, but truly they have no clue what love is. Love can be just as painful as it can be beautiful. It can turn on you in a heartbeat. It can become your worst enemy. It can twist your world and turn it upside down, leaving you feeling alone and empty. Love is a very powerful gift. It is when one finds true love that all of the feelings, good and bad come together. That is when they are organized and compromised to make two people into one. It is when we are one that we join forces against the world and battle together. Sometimes it feels easier to go it alone, but it is the word, “alone” that really scares me. I would rather risk it all with someone, then to be alone. To say yes to the questions above tells you that you have risked it and are in love!
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“I believe that we are here for each other, not against each other. Everything comes from an understanding that you are a gift in my life – whoever you are, whatever our differences.” – John Denver

Renae C Judkins
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Every bride wants her wedding to be unique, so she will go to great lengths to make sure her dress is an original and her centerpieces are unlike any she has ever seen.
But what about her wedding invitations? Brides are continually searching for quality wedding invitations that have an original theme and aren’t generic.
Carlson Craft and Birchcraft are considered the Wal-Mart of wedding invitations and every bridal shop and wedding invitation site seems to be an affiliate. However, new wedding invitation sites are entering the market and they seem to be becoming Carlson Craft and Birchcrafts’ worst nightmare even with little or no affiliates.
VegasWedlockInvitations.com is an example of this. VegasWedlock Invitations sells Las Vegas Wedding Invitations and the owners were practically bombarded with desperate brides before their site even went live.
Simply put, these brides didn’t order from Carlson Craft and Birchcraft because their wedding invitations were too generic. These brides were getting married in Las Vegas and wanted Las Vegas themed wedding invitations. Even though Carlson Craft and Birchcraft have a few Las Vegas wedding invitation choices, brides told VegasWedlock that Carlson Craft and Birchcrafts’ Las Vegas themed wedding invitations were were “cheesy” and too general.
VegasWedlock Invitations have taken the term “gniche wedding invitations” seriously. Not only do they have the largest selections of Las Vegas wedding invitations in the world, but they go the extra mile and create Las Vegas themed wedding invitations for nearly every wedding location on the strip, including the Little White Wedding Chapel.
While searches for general wedding invitations is still popular, over 200,000 searches per month, gniche wedding invitation searches are quickly gaining speed. The term “Las Vegas wedding invitation” alone has over 2,000 searches per month. The term “Beach wedding invitation” has over 6,000 searches per month. These might not seem like a lot, but when Carlson Craft and Birchcraft only have half a dozen invitations to accommodate these searches, brides are craving a gniche site with more variety in their specific area. These are just two search terms out of the thousands of gniche wedding invitation sites out there. Every state in the United States has nearly 200 brides searching per month for wedding invitations related to their home towns.
The owners of VegasWedlock will soon be starting another site for Beach invitations and will move onto other gniche areas in order to satisfy brides’ tastes for more specifics.
To view VegasWedlock’s Las Vegas Wedding Invitations, go to their site at http://www.vegaswedlock

Amy Spade
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If a bride tells you that she’s not worried about fitting into her wedding dress, then she is probably lying. While the stress of planning a wedding can cause a lot of women to forget about eating, others find comfort in nibbling a little more or can’t find time to exercise.
The result is a wedding dress that needs to be taken out, rather than in at the final fitting. And every bride fears this.
Keeping your dress
When it comes to staying in shape, you need to think of a few things before weighing yourself constantly. First of all, your health is number one at this time. You are under a lot of pressure, so you need to make sure that your body is able to handle it well.
To do this, you will want to find some way to incorporate exercise into your life. Of course, you might laugh and wonder where you’ll ever find the time, but know that you should. Even if it’s just fifteen minutes a day, you need to walk, run, bike, whatever.
Exercise creates stress resistance. You’ve heard the expression of blowing off steam by going out for a run, well it works. Not only are you creating a great distraction for your body and mind, but you’re also strengthening your body for any added pressure.
Of course, burning calories is always nice.
Watching the nibbles
Mindlessly nibbling is the quickest way to gain weight. And even though you don’t have the time to prepare the healthiest of meals, you may want to consider healthier choices. Finding salads with low-fat dressing is good, but overall, they’re not very filling. You can actually go to the drive-thru and get a burger; it just shouldn’t be the biggest one on the menu. Choose the plain hamburger and a salad-it’s a quick and filling meal.
You will want to watch the sweets for a while. These can cause you to want to eat more and that’s the last thing that you want.
When you’re having your fittings for your wedding dress, you will want to be honest about what you can wear. Just because you want to wear a size six dress doesn’t mean that your size ten body is going to magically shrink to accommodate you. Be realistic about what you’re going to be able to wear and tell the person who is altering the dress if something is too tight.
You don’t want to be an uncomfortable bride now, do you?

Evelyn Cole
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Headline, New York Times: “A Shocker: Partisan thought is unconscious.
“The thought process of a partisan being challenged is almost entirely emotional, and there are flares of pleasure when unwelcome information is rejected.” Benedict Carey, January 24, 2006.
Evidently neuroscientists using MRI scanners now prove what your mother has always known. Don’t discuss politics or religion at dinner.
Remember the arguments you had with her when she’d say, “Now don’t you bring up politics when Uncle Harry’s here.”
“But, Mom, I want to know why he thinks the way he does.”
“Don’t you dare question him. He gets all riled up and your father gets into it, too.”
“But if you can’t discuss politics you can’t have a true democracy, an enlightened exchange of ideas.”
“With Uncle Harry you get lightning, not enlightened. So don’t mention religion either. You hear me?”
Unless you have never witnessed a political demonstration or have never had your views challenged by someone in your family with opposite views, you might be surprised that an MRI scan reveals that partisan thought is unconscious.
I was shocked by the word “shocker” in the headline. Who doesn’t know the heat of political rhetoric?
If we all understood the basic fact that our emotions support our political views, we might be able to exchange viewpoints without shouting.
If we all realized that the “child is father to the man” and that everything learned in childhood is stored in the subconscious mind and powers our emotions, we could avoid a lot of family dinner friction.
Children in the same family perceive different messages from their parents.
For example, my father grew up relatively poor on a farm in Massachusetts. He went to college on scholarships and felt socially inferior to his wealthy classmates. Consequently, he worked hard to become relatively wealthy by the time I, his fifth child, was born. He was a staunch Republican.
He retired when I was nine years old and began traveling around the world. He witnessed extremes of poverty and wealth that disturbed him.
Although he still espoused Republican rhetoric after he traveled, he communicated, indirectly, the values that my youngest brother and I associate with the Democratic Party.
His first three children still vote Republican. His last two generally vote Demcocratic.
Not so strangely, I have never discussed politics with my older siblings. I do with the youngest of my brothers who most influenced me. I know exactly where each of my siblings’ partisan viewpoints came from.
In the last U.S. presidential election the country was divided into red and blue states. The blue states, predominantly democrats, are heavily populated. If you grew up in such a state you inhaled its partisan politics as a child. If you grew up in a red state you inhaled opposite politics and religion, opposite identity within your identity as U.S. citizen.
Do you remember other kids at national elections asking, “Are you a Democrat or a Republican?” It was part of your identity.
My daughter is married to an Australian. She has dual citizenship, as do her two sons. One son asked, “What religion am I, Australian?” She answered. That’s your nationality. You were baptized Anglican.” He said, “I thought I was part American.”
Identity. It’s confusing for little kids. And for big kids, too.
Do you have a dream of an ideal world? I do.
We’re in a new century. Technology changes at exponential rates. Amazing good is possible.
We seem to be in a terrible quagmire worldwide now, but the pendulum can swing the other way. It’s due.
I think it will when more people understand the power of the subconscious mind and fewer people are shocked by the fact that partisan politics has subconscious roots.
Do your family a favor. Discuss the emotional roots of your political and religious beliefs instead of the beliefs themselves.
Copyright 2006 Cole’s Poetic License
Z

Joy Cagil
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Yesterday, I found this quote scribbled in one of my old note-pads: “With love, nothing else matters; without it, everything else gets on your nerves.”
Every Valentine’s Day, flowers, cards, chocolate candy, and presents abound and love letters are sent between lovers. Widespread symbols are hearts and arrows, flowers especially red roses, cupid, and the color red or pink.
February 14 is the time when birds start mating; therefore, since the olden times, the celebration of romantic love was traced to this day. The earliest date this holiday is found in would have to be in Greek mythology attributing February 14 to the marriage of Zeus and Hera. On Zeus and Hera’s trail, comes Lupercalia or the festival of Faunus, the god of fertility in ancient Rome.
Then, there are several Christian saints named Valentine to whom this celebration of love can be attributed. Most of these St. Valentines were martyred for one reason or another, like the St. Valentine in Rome who aided prisoners or the St. Valentine in Africa. Among the martyrs, the most likely St. Valentine for whom the Valentine’s day was named is the saint who performed soldier weddings, disregarding Emperor Claudius II’s order banning Roman soldiers from marriage.
Without any doubt, celebration of love leaped into the earliest centuries and to the time of Renaissance. The oldest known valentine is a poem written in 1415 by the duke of Orleans to this wife, while he was in prison. It is kept in the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England.
Sending love poems, letters, and cards to lovers soon became a fashion. During the 1800’s books of romantic poetry were published for Valentine’s day. From inside those books, young men chose poetry to give to their sweethearts. In the United States, most of all valentines people sent to each other were imported from Europe until 1914 when the American publishers jumped into action.
In our time, celebrating Valentine’s Day custom still exists and flourishes, even if St. Valentine was taken down from sainthood by the Roman Catholic Church. During the latest two decades, celebration of Valentine’s Day has spread to India and China, probably due to these countries’ sudden economic boom.
Accordingly, Valentine’s Day has become the most card-sending time of the year after Christmas, with most of the cards purchased by women. Not only that, elaborate, tasteful, and original artistic card creations have come into existence and are now being offered even on the internet, like those in http://www.prye.com.
Since there is so much ado about it, let’s try to define romantic love. It is said that real love is unconditional. This is such an appealing statement and so idealistic that we wish it were true.
The notion of romantic love, however, is based on the idea of preservation of our species and works better on reciprocal give and take than on one-sided martyrdom. Romantic love is based on a genuine concern for the welfare and happiness of the other partner without giving away from one’s own safety and personal power.
Experiencing truly lasting romantic love takes time, work, and patience. Once the initial attraction and fantasy wears off, sometimes we stumble and doubt our partner and even our own feelings. This is nothing to worry about but a natural outcome of being human. A good and enduring relationship takes time, effort, understanding, and acceptance to cultivate. The idea is not to give up but work attentively at perking up the relationship.
When two people care about each other’s happiness, pleasure of being together becomes delightful and healthy. Genuine praise, little loving gestures, kind words, and true caring enhances such a relationship greatly and that’s what makes the celebration of Valentine’s day or the celebration of love so important in our lives.
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Geoff Davies
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Ask yourself these questions
Does your partner spend a lot of time on line?
Do they have other email accounts, do they use the computer after you have gone to bed, have they changed the passwords on your computer, maybe they delete all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
It’s common for a cheating partner to use e-mail to communicate with their lover. Some of the telltale signs in this category may also be an indication of involvement in an on line or cyber affair. Don’t take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful to your marriage as the real thing. Though they may not involve sexual contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical reality.
Does your home phone ring and when “you” answer it there’s no one there.
Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take place by phone. These telltale signs of infidelity are relatively easy to find. Some people take the risk of calling their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home.
Check your partner’s mobile phone, look at the call log, incoming, outgoing, missed and deleted calls. Check the messaging, texts in and out and deleted
Does your partner have little or no interest in sex? Or have they changed their sexual habits
Be alert for any type of changes in the frequency or the quality of your sex life together. Most important of all: If you suspect your partner of having an affair, take steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at risk from HIV/AIDS, herpes or other sexually transmitted diseases.
Perhaps you find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy or maybe he carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
Take a few minutes to look over your partner’s car; have they removed the kid’s stuff or the baby seat?
The car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove compartment, car seats (underneath and between), the spare tyre well, under the sun visor, the ashtray, the side pockets or compartments, under the floor mats and other nooks and crannies can reveal a wealth of information .Has the passenger seat in the car has been moved and is not in the usual position.
Do their clothes smell different, like a lover’s perfume or aftershave?
Has your partner recently started working late or has to attend lots of late meetings?
Business is commonly used as an excuse to account for large blocks of time away from home. Partners often use their jobs as a cover for extramarital affairs. Your partner’s work habits will undoubtedly change as the affair unfolds.
Affairs generally require a considerable amount of time. There are only 24 hours in a day; your partner’s absences will become increasingly more frequent as they try to steal time from other activities.
Has your partner changed their style of clothes i.e.: trying to look younger?
People having an affair (or even thinking about having one) will want to make themselves more attractive. They will begin to enhance his appearance in some way. Be alert for changes in wardrobe, grooming, physical appearance and personal hygiene.
These are usually the most visible signs of infidelity. If they embark on a drastic self-induced makeover, it’s probably not for you.
Do they act nervous or fidgety whenever the name of a colleague or friend of the opposite/same sex is mentioned or talked about?
Studies show that we are more likely to have an affair with someone we already know, someone that they come into contact with on a regular basis – a neighbour, a colleague, a family friend or business associate.
If you’re observant, you may be able to determine the identity of your partner’s lover by the way they behaves in their presence.
Does your partner hide the credit card bills and banks statements?
Affairs cost money. If your partner has a lover, they will want to wine and dine them entertain and buy the occasional gifts. No matter how carefully they cover their tracks; sooner or later this will be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert for financial signs of infidelity.
Be especially vigilant around the times of the year when gifts are usually exchanged. During the holidays and various other times throughout the year, you may find gifts or cards hidden around your home or in the car. Receipts or credit card bills for gifts may turn up shortly before or after Christmas and Valentine’s Day.Z

Roger Mayne
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Getting over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are typically always much worse than the reality of the situation.
Below, I’ve listed 12 simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren’t magic solutions, but practice these steps and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.
Step 1. Fake it until you make it!
This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have. This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!
Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.
Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.
Step 3. Work on building your self confidence.
Yes, this will take effort on your part by reading books on the subject or listening to motivational tapes, but it works!
Step 4. Learn how to use daily affirmations.
Daily affirmations and positive mind influence can be very powerful tools to improve yourself. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like “I like myself!” or “I am a winner!”
Step 5. Role play situations that make you anxious.
This may sound silly but take time out alone to Play-act situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This play-acting will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.
Step 6. Dress to impress.
Dress to impress, even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.
Step 7. Positive goals.
Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple – by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.
Step 8. Reprogram your mental definition of shyness.
This goes along the same lines as using daily affirmations or by reading self help books. By changing your perception of shyness instead of having a negative attachment to the word, you will then help re-create your outlook on it.
Step 9. Learn to take risks.
How many times did you just want to go up to someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or how they impressed you with their clothes. As a daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up to a total stranger and say something nice. It could be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not worry about the outcome, do not worry about what they say, just do it!
Step 10. Face your fears!
Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.
Step 11. Get those dates.
A rather direct tactic, you can learn to overcome shyness by dating frequently. Practicing dating is the most successful way to rid your shyness but this takes a lot of nerve so date ‘at your own risk’.
Step 12. Last but not least, be honest! Tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well. By just telling them you feel the same will help to put them at ease too. With both of you more relaxed, the date is sure to go much better.

Richard Miltenberger
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For casual ceremonies, the sky is really the limit as to style.
But most weddings follow a certain set of formalities in their
invitations. Here is a template for a normal wedding invitation:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Kathryn Marie
and
Mr. James Henry Smith
on Saturday, the tenth of July
two thousand and five
at seven o’clock
First Baptist Church
222 Ellerbe Road
Paris, Texas

As for a formal wedding template, there are some rules of wording
that are appropriate:

1. Spell out every word, even the date and year. Street, not St.
Road, not Rd.
2. Use Roman numerals in titles, such as David Kenneth Williams
III. Do not use “3rd” or “third”.
3. For weddings in a church, say “request the honour of your
presence”. For non-religious weddings, say “request the pleasure
of your company”.
4. Write out full names. Do not use initials.

You can copy and paste this template onto your word processor for
easy guidance:

(the name of bride’s parents/parent)
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
(the name of bride)
to
(the name of groom)
on (weekday name),
the (day of month, spelled out) of (month)
at (time, spelled out) o’clock
(name of church or building)
(address of church/building)
(city, state of ceremony)

Optional:

Reception Immediately Following
At
(name of location)

Directions to the reception hall can be given at the wedding or
on a separate card in the invitation envelope.

Robert Johanssen
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Ever notice how men talk about ‘having sex’ while women talk about ‘making love?’ That kind of hits the nail on the head when it comes to how men and women approach sex. Men are pretty direct when it comes to sex — they are arounsed easily, usually by visual stimulation, what they see. Women are much more complex, and require a more complicated experience to become aroused and take longer.
While that sounds simple, (and it is!) if you are going to improve your sexual technique, you must keep it in mind constantly.
So lets have a look at this ‘more complicated experience,’ and see what we can learn.
Women enjoy sex with more of their senses, touch, smell, taste, and hearing. Notice that I did NOT say sight. Women are aroused by sight as well as the other senses, but this is secondary.
Women love things like ‘taking your time’, ‘anticipation’, and ‘foreplay’ because they make the experience richer and involve more senses.
Lets look at a few of these in more detail:
1. Hearing. Women love to hear romantic sensual things. Notice that is sensual not sexual language. Women love love to hear you describe your feelings. Men are more direct and want to hear things like, “you are so big.” Women like to hear things like, “your skin is so soft.”
2. Touching. Women love to be touched and stroked. Stroking, cuddling, and touching is all great stuff that arouses women. Stroke her lightly with the tips of your fingers up and down her body, avoiding sexual areas. There will be lots of time for that later! Build up tension and anticipation.
3. Smelling. This could be scented candles or inscense. Women love smelling and being smelled.
4. Tasting. Women love to be fed all kinds of wonderful things like strawberries, sweets, and wine.
5. Sight. While generally women are not turned on by sight, most women love to look into your eyes. This kind of ultra-romantic stuff is a huge turn-on for most women.
6. Kissing. Kissing is a kind of touching. Our lips have tons of nerve endings in them which is why contact with our lips feels good. Make kissing an experience instead of jumping right in with your tongue! Lightly brush her lips with yours and then pull away. Keep doing this ‘brushing’ contact, and you will excite the nerve ending on both of your lips. Play with your lips lightly and gently.
Remember when you were learning to drive? One of the first things you learn is – don’t gun the engine while its cold! Well sex is just like that! ZZZ

Mark Steffan
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In order to rate or rank which beaches are best for a wedding on Maui, we first must determine what criteria we should use in coming up with a result. Having worked on thousands of weddings on the Island of Maui I can say from experience what it is that matters most to the newlywed couple. The beach must first be romantic with a beautiful backdrop.
Photos are of paramount importance. Given that, there should be a certain level of privacy. All the beaches in the Hawaiian Islands are public and therefore privacy is not guaranteed anywhere!
Next, access should not be difficult. Good parking and public restrooms are a plus. Proximity plays a role for most. Your wedding beach needs to be relatively close to where you are staying. Last but definitely not least is weather. Many couples ask to be married next to a waterfall not realizing that the romantic photo they are looking at fantasizing about their dream wedding is that photo was taken on the only day it did not rain there that month. You do not want to be rained out.
For more information about Maui weddings and the best beaches, visit http://www.mauidforever.com.
The top beaches for weddings in Maui are as follows:
1. South Maluaka. Located behind the Maui Prince Resort, this location offers many beautiful venues. The park above the beach has a very private lawn area encircled by tropical vegetation. Several other grass knoll overlooks of the ocean and lava point are other excellent choices. Of course the sandy beach is very nice too. This beach has public restrooms and showers and plenty of parking. The 4 Island views from this locale offer excellent photography and the sunsets are to die for. Good for larger weddings.
2. Makena Surf. Exactly 1.1 mile south of the Fairmont Kealani lies a secluded stretch of sand not too well known even to Maui locals. Access is through a public easement and a flower laden walkway down to the beach is lovely. The beach itself is a long with golden sand and accented with black lava outcroppings. Plenty of beautiful wedding spots dot this very good choice for a Maui wedding. The biggest drawback: No public restrooms. Good for larger weddings.
3. Makena Cove. Probably the most famous of Maui wedding beaches, Makena Cove is quite spectacular. Probably the most striking little cove on Maui. Little is the operative word. Being so popular and so small means a sometime literal wait for you to be able to have your wedding there. No restrooms, little parking compound the problem. Consider this option for a smaller wedding only.
4. Wailea Elua. Maui’s most luxurious community has a beach access popular with snorkelers and scuba divers. This site is a black lava point with 2 sandy coves to either side. Good parking and public restrooms make this a good choice for many. The point and both sandy coves offer several excellent wedding choices. Only consider this for a late afternoon sunset wedding as regular beachgoers don’t make this a good choice for morning weddings.
5. Kapalua Bay. The only one of our top choices located in West Maui. So if you are staying in Lahaina, Kaanapali, Napili, Kahana or Kapalua this is essentially the only and best choice for you. Excellent parking, public restrooms and a wide sandy bay make this an excellent choice for a wedding. At this time there is a grass knoll overlooking the bay on the south side of the bay (closest to the parking lot) and is a spectacular wedding site in Maui.

Terry Hernon MacDonald
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“Why isn’t she with you?” “She left.” “Why?” “There were so many reasons.” “There were not so many reasons. There was only one. You made yourself too available.”
-From JOURNEY TO IXTLAN: THE LESSONS OF DON JUAN by Carlos Castaneda.
The characters in the above scenario are men, but women often make themselves too available in relationships, as well. The consequences are usually disastrous.
Hey, we tell ourselves, I like the guy. He might be the one! Can’t let him slip through my fingers! So, we stay home and wedge the last bit of peanut butter from the jar for dinner. Can’t run out for real food and risk missing his call!
When he does call, we move heaven and earth to hang out with him. So what if we had plans to go out with friends on Friday night? Cancel! So what if we had a dentist appointment when he called at the last minute about having football tickets. Cancel! Hey, these things aren’t important, right?
Wrong!
When you cancel prior agreements to be with a guy, you’re pretty much canceling your life. Deep down, you don’t feel good about it (your friends and dentist don’t feel good about it, either). You’re also telling the guy that you can’t live without him.
And that lowers your stock.
Let’s turn the tables: Would you really want some a guy who cancels plans with his friends to be with you? Who calls you three times a day? Who treats you like you’re his one and only shot at happiness?
No, you wouldn’t. Regardless of his education, salary, sense of humor, and great looks, you’d stop respecting him. Any attraction you once felt for him would die a quick and sudden death.
You’d dump him and look for a guy who has a life.
Now, don’t misunderstand me. I don’t advocate playing games. If a man calls you, you answer the phone. If he leaves a message, you call him back. But if he calls you at 7:30PM on Friday to go to a football game on Saturday, I’d think twice about it.
In other words, don’t let yourself be taken for granted.
My mother told me of a rule she had when she was dating: She’d never say yes to a date for a weekend unless the guy asked her before Thursday. She explained that a man would figure she didn’t have much going on if she didn’t have plans by then. When she told me this, I thought it sounded contrived and stupid. But, as in most things, it turns out she was right.
Remember this: Everybody, man or woman, likes to win a prize. Being available, but not too-available, makes you a prize.
As time goes on and your relationship with a guy becomes serious, it’s important to keep up your hobbies, continue to see your friends, and do all the things that make you who you are –things that don’t necessarily include him.
It makes you attractive. What’s more, you’ll like yourself more for it. Women who like themselves are especially desirable, sexy, and fun to be around.
Be that woman.
“Why isn’t she with you?” “She left.” “Why?” “There were so many reasons.” “There were not so many reasons. There was only one. You made yourself too available.”
-From JOURNEY TO IXTLAN: THE LESSONS OF DON JUAN by Carlos Castaneda.
The characters in this scenario are men, but women often make themselves too available in relationships, as well. The consequences are usually disastrous.
Hey, we tell ourselves, I like the guy. He might be the one! Can’t let him slip through my fingers! So, we stay home and wedge the last bit of peanut butter from the jar for dinner. Can’t run out for real food and risk missing his call!
When he does call, we move heaven and earth to hang out with him. So what if we had plans to go out with friends on Friday night? Cancel! So what if we had a dentist appointment when he called at the last minute about having football tickets. Cancel! Hey, these things aren’t important, right?
Wrong!
When you cancel prior agreements to be with a guy, you’re pretty much canceling your life. Deep down, you don’t feel good about it (your friends and dentist don’t feel good about it, either). You’re also telling the guy that you can’t live without him.
And that lowers your stock.
Let’s turn the tables: Would you really want some a guy who cancels plans with his friends to be with you? Who calls you three times a day? Who treats you like you’re his one and only shot at happiness?
No, you wouldn’t. Regardless of his education, salary, sense of humor, and great looks, you’d stop respecting him. Any attraction you once felt for him would die a quick and sudden death.
You’d dump him and look for a guy who has a life.
Now, don’t misunderstand me. I don’t advocate playing games. If a man calls you, you answer the phone. If he leaves a message, you call him back. But if he calls you at 7:30PM on Friday to go to a football game on Saturday, I’d think twice about it.
In other words, don’t let yourself be taken for granted.
My mother told me of a rule she had when she was dating: She’d never say yes to a date for a weekend unless the guy asked her before Thursday. She explained that a man would figure she didn’t have much going on if she didn’t have plans by then. When she told me this, I thought it sounded contrived and stupid. But, as in most things, it turns out she was right.
Remember this: Everybody, man or woman, likes to win a prize. Being available, but not too-available, makes you a prize.
As time goes on and your relationship with a guy becomes serious, it’s important to keep up your hobbies, continue to see your friends, and do all the things that make you who you are –things that don’t necessarily include him.
It makes you attractive. What’s more, you’ll like yourself more for it. Women who like themselves are especially desirable, sexy, and fun to be around.
Be that woman.

Mary Williams
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Here are some tips that you can use to add some spark to your couple life. With this romantic getaway tips, they will heat up your romance in no time. You’ll find ideas for romantic escapes ranging from very modest to elaborate.
1. Make Your Home a Hideaway: You are probably thinking that this won’t work, but if you prepare just a little bit, it will be a great success. Schedule your vacation in advance, like if you were leaving home, unplug your phones, and let your friends and family know you are on vacation. Once your “at home” vacation starts, here are some things you may want to include to add to the experience:
- go to the library, pick out a book you both like, and read it out loud to each other while sitting on your back porch, or by the fireplace
- rent a documentary about a foreign city you always wanted to visit, like Paris, and afterwards have dinner at a local restaurant that serves the cuisine you would find in that city
- watch a romantic movie and fall asleep in each other’s arms
2. Seclusion in the Woods: How long has it been since you had time to listen to each other? Weeks? Months? Dare I say, years? If you’ve been deprived of meaningful, relaxed talk for more than a few weeks, a vacation away from everything can be wonderfully romantic. You can rent a cabin, or go camping (if you both enjoy it), and really get to know each other again, both emotionally and physically.
Need some ideas? Here they are:
- build a fire in your cabin, if it has a fireplace, or a bonfire outside (make sure it’s legal!), and roast some marshmallows, which you can feed each other
- go for a long hike, and bring along a blanket so that when you get tired you can lie down in a private area and add some spice to the hike
- make some music together: bring along a guitar or harmonica and serenade each other. Or, if you are not musically inclined, bring along a CD of old favorites and sing along with the music
3. Relax on a Tropical Island: Why are tropical islands romantic? With the sun and tropical breezes on your bare skin, the sunsets by the ocean, coupled with some quality relaxing time it’s impossible not to feel reenergized and more romantic.
While on the island, schedule some pampering for both of you: a nice spa treatment complete with a massage, followed by a glass of quality wine, some chocolates, and whatever else you are inspired to do….
4. Return to Your Honeymoon Hotel: This trip may be even more romantic than the first time you made it.
Now you know each other’s bodies enough to be able to drive your partner wild. And with a treasure trove of memories to share, nostalgia will play a great role in the reenactment of this love story. You may even want to take some new vows: this time design them to protect and rekindle your romance.
You have all tips now. It is your turn to start planning you next romantic getaway!

Dan Ohler
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Business – a strange phenomenon. Here is how I understand it.
I choose a business idea. I research and watch similar businesses to see what works. I decide on my target market. I invest hard-earned (or hard-borrowed) money to develop flashy marketing materials, make a ton of phone calls, and enter into a ‘courtship’ to attract those ideal customers into my place of business. I go to great lengths to provide exceptional customer service, invest hours of time, piles of money, and great effort to ensure that those customers like and trust me.
My intent is to have those same loyal customers for years and years and years and years (a really long time). I want them to talk favourably about me to all of their friends, family, and colleagues. The desired result is a win-win relationship where my customer receives exceptional service, and I profit; intrinsically with good feelings, and extrinsically with financial and material rewards. It makes my customers’ life great, and it makes my life great. Cool deal.
If I don’t provide exceptional service, my customers may become dissatisfied and go elsewhere. Ouch, I don’t want that.
Is that how you understand business?
What about the business of a primary relationship with a partner or spouse?
Hmmm, very similar. Here is what happened for me.
I got an idea of how a relationship ’should be.’ Fortunately, I had great models. My parents, Neil and Elizabeth Ohler, modelled unconditional love, respect, kindness, trust, and effective communication – most of the time. Hey, they are humans!
>From this research, I decided upon qualities that my life partner, my ideal customer, would have. I envisioned a life-long relationship with her. I invested hard-earned money to be a flashy marketing piece, I made tons of phone calls, and I entered into many ‘courtships,’ searching for my perfect life customer. I found Carol. I provided exceptional customer service, invested hours of time, piles of money, and great effort to ensure that she liked and trusted me, and that I liked and trusted her. I wanted her to talk favourably about me to her family, friends, and colleagues.
Finally, she asked me if she could enter my place of business – my home. Boy that was the biggest sales job I ever did.
But then things changed. All of a sudden we had each other. We agreed to live together, and even sleep together. But the ‘best practices’ of business seemed to disappear. Instead of continuing the courtship, continuing to provide exceptional customer service, and intending on a win-win relationship, I started to ignore, disregard, and neglect Carol. I was rude, disrespectful, and hurtful at times. To be quite blunt, I was a bit of a schmuck.
Do you think I was rewarded intrinsically and extrinsically for my level of customer service? Do you feel I deserved to be rewarded for this?
I am so thankful that I learned the lessons before my ‘ideal customer’ walked out of my door, never to return.
What about you? How do you operate your ‘business’ of your personal partnership?
Here are my ‘Happy Half-Dozen Hints’ to improve the level of personal customer service.
- Kindness – Treat your partner as he/she would like to be treated. Ask rather than assume.
- Respect – Show admiration and high-regard for your partner. When you look for, and expect the very best, that is what you will see. If you look for the worst, you will see exactly that.
- Share thoughts and feelings – Be willing to talk about the good and the bad. Always use the words I, me, and my, because what you are sharing is your perspective only.
- Listen attentively – Yup! That says LISTEN, which means to keep your mouth shut and use those two little things on the side of your head. Listen with the intent to understand how he/she sees it. It is not effective to be reloading your ‘verbal gun’ in preparation to fire back. Set aside your emotions, ego, and agenda. Listen and learn. Through an understanding of your partner’s perspective, you will eliminate, or resolve many of your issues.
- Honesty – When you always tell the truth, you don’t have to worry about mixing-up your stories.
- Gratitude – Take time everyday to be thankful for your experiences of life. Develop an attitude of gratitude toward people, places, and events.
You may be thinking, “But my life is so complex. It’s not that easy.”
Hogwash! It is that easy if you commit to it. Or would you rather the alternative?
I challenge you to test out the hints listed above. Use them generously, with love, and without attachment to any specific outcome. You will like the results – guaranteed.
Cot© 2005

Charlie Taylor
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It’s all systems go in the Highlands for wedding planners and wedding venues alike. On 21st December, this year, Civil Partnerships between same sex couples – commonly known as Gay Weddings – will be permitted throughout the UK. Already, some Scottish wedding planners report considerable interest from the gay and lesbian communities for the traditional ‘kilt and bagpipes’ wedding in a Highland castle or a luxury hotel.
But the arrival of equality in the wedding aisle north of the border has not been without its hiccups. As The Press and Journal reported on 4th August: “Highland councillors have recommended registrars only perform a basic registration – the absolute minimum required by the legislation…”
Not surprisingly this perceived homophobia caused an uproar in the gay and lesbian community, and among politicians at the national level. Intensive lobbying of the council began.
Other Scottish local authorities reacted differently. Perth and Kinross, Angus, Aberdeenshire, Argyll and Bute, Moray and Aberdeen City Councils, for example, all announced their unqualified acceptance of the spirit of the Civil Partnershp Act, as well as its letter.
The lobbying process, and some would say common sense and fairness as well, won the day. On 17th August, at another meeting of the Highland Council Resources Committee, the following was approved:
“a) that Civil Partnerships in Highland be registered in Registration Offices or in other locations agreed for the purpose subject to checks, where appropriate, to establish any health and safety issues which might affect staff in respect of alternative locations
b) that Registration takes the form of a simple registration, or a ceremony as requested by the partners”
And so, Scottish gay weddings websites are up and running, advertising campaigns have started, and wedding venues are having to think through the services they offer to same sex couples after years of catering only to heteros. It will be interesting and not a little exciting to see how they all fare. Whatever happens, the average Scot, Lowlander or Highlander, will be only too ready, willing and able to toast the happy couple with a wee dram of single malt. Slainte!

Cynthia Marcano
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Is your anniversary here again? Don’t know what to buy your better half? Maybe the anniversary gift guide can help. The guide has been updated with a few gift ideas to make your shopping a little easier.
1st Anniversary- The first anniversary is the year of paper. Paper gifts are not as boring as one may think. It can be as simple as a handwritten poem or as lavish as an airline ticket.
2nd Anniversary – The second anniversary is cotton. A good cotton gift is clothing. Personalizing it makes it even more special. Nowadays you can personalize just about anything.
3rd Anniversary- The third anniversary gift is leather. Wallets and purses are nice leather gifts. There are also tins of leather items that can be personalized as well. (Ex. Personalized leather bracelets or briefcases)
4th Anniversary- Linen is the fourth anniversary gift. Linen gifts include table linens and vacation linen shirts also known as Guayaberas.
5th Anniversary- Wood is fifth anniversary gift. Gift ideas range from gift baskets to furniture.
6th Anniversary- The sixth anniversary is iron. Iron gifts include candleholders and picture frames.
7th Anniversary- Depending on who you ask, the seven year anniversary is either copper or wool. Cooper gifts include vases and bowls. Wool gifts include sweaters and scarves.
8th Anniversary- Bronze is the eighth anniversary gift. Bronze gifts can be anything from a candleholder or vase to a trinket or memorable keepsake being bronzed.
9th Anniversary- Pottery is the ninth anniversary. Sculptures, vases and bowls are the most common of these gifts. A great gift idea would be to enjoy a pottery class together.
10th Anniversary- Tin or Aluminum is the gifts for 10 years of bliss. Jewelry boxes or tin gift containers filled with goodies make great tin/aluminum gifts. Gift basket containers would be a great to incorporate tin or aluminum.
11th Anniversary- Eleven years of marriage equal a gift of Steel. Gifts can be anything from a stainless steel watch or pendant to stainless kitchen appliances.
12th Anniversary- Silk is the twelfth anniversary gift. Silk pajamas and sheets are a wonderful gift. Robes and clothing are also great.
13th Anniversary- The thirteenth anniversary is that of Lace. This anniversary gift’s element is more for the ladies. Lace table linens, hankies and nightgowns are wonderful gifts of lace.
14th Anniversary- Ivory is the gift fourteen years of marriage. Imagination is important for this gift giving year. An ivory broche is a worldly gift for your wife and if your husband is open to anything, try an ivory elephant tusk. Not likely huh? How about Ivory soap? At least I tried.
15th Anniversary – Fifteen years of wedded bliss earn you Crystal. Swarovski Crystals set in a pendant, watch or other piece of jewelry is a nice idea. For the simple folk, a crystal vase or personalized champagne flutes add that touch of romance.
20th Anniversary- Twentieth Anniversary is the gift of China. That is pretty self explanatory.
25th Anniversary- Twenty five years of marriage is also known as The Silver Anniversary. Silver jewelry or nice jewelry boxes are always safe bets.
30th Anniversary- Pearl is the gift of a thirty year anniversary. Pearls can be given as a necklace or placed in a ring.
35th Anniversary- Coral or Jade is the gifts for this anniversary. You can find coral gifts such as vases, sculptures, trays or games made or coral. Jade gifts are usually jewelry like bracelets and earrings.
40th Anniversary- The fortieth year anniversary gift is Ruby. Like many of the gifts, jewelry is a good gift.
45th Anniversary- Sapphires represent forty years of marriage. Jewelry
50th Anniversary- The Golden Anniversary is among one of the well known. Gold gifts can be anything from jewelry to golden vases, cups, frames, figurines and other trinkets.
55th Anniversary- Emeralds are the gifts of this year. Jewelry is a common gift.
60th Anniversary- Sixty years of being married most certainly deserves Diamonds. What could be better than diamond jewelry?
65th Anniversary- Blue Sapphires are the gifts of this year. Once again jewelry is appropriate…it’s deserved!
70th Anniversary- Platinum gifts are representative of seventy platinum years of marriage. Platinum gifts include jewelry, music boxes, figurines and gift boxes.
75th Anniversary- Once again Diamond is the gift of choice. After seventy five years of marriage, it is most certainly deserving. Best gift…Jewelry!
80th Anniversary- Oak represents eighty years of marriage. If you have been married eighty years than you marriage is stronger than oak. Nevertheless a fantastic oak gift is Oak Home! If you can’t afford it, there are tons of handmade oak gifts such as furniture, wall shelves and many more.ZZ

Ron Goodswen
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How often have you said to a your friends, “I always seem to pick guys who are bad for me”
According to Hypnotherapy specialist Roderick Piggott, Women who experience a series of broken and unequal relationships, often are suffering from issues of low self-esteem and poor self-image. This causes them to choose the wrong partners again and again.  
Low self esteem can really impact negatively on a persons quality of life, making them feel that they don’t deserve love and respect and are not fit to enjoy a proper, fulfilling relationship. Motivation levels can sink, leaving them feeling low and robbing them of any enthusiasm.
If you suffer from low self esteem, you blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault; you underestimate your abilities, and you expect things to go wrong for you. Often, low self-esteem is associated with a range of other problems, such as lack of confidence, depression, anxiety, stress and jealousy. If you feel that your opinions and thoughts are worthless, you will find yourself unable to connect or communicate effectively with others, which can become a real issue. This can be picked up by partners, leading to a shift in the balance of a relationship, turning it into something that is unequal and disadvantageous to the weaker partner. Frequently this leads to an abusive relationship and often the cycle is repeated many times.
It simply may not be the “wrong” man that you choose, it is very probable that a partner will become frustrated and lose respect. Attitudes then change taking the relationship off course.
There are many things that might happen in life that can cause low self-esteem. It could be a traumatic childhood, maybe a respected figure in your life belittled you, perhaps failure at a career or at school, or even a lack of social life or friends. Whatever the causes, it is important to try and get your life back on track and get over these feelings of worthlessness for the sake of yourself and those around you. These negative emotions can reflect in everything you do and say, and can start to affect your whole life.
Women who realize that they need self esteem help are often too embarrassed to admit to anyone that they have a problem, however many sufferers of low self-esteem are benefiting from hypnotherapy treatment, which can literally change peoples lives for the better.
Even though you may want to change the way you feel, to be confident in your thoughts and ideas, to have a sense of faith in your own abilities and know consciously that you are worthwhile and respected, your emotional subconscious mind knows different. Your mind goes back to your deepest insecurities, together with the emotions that are held alongside those memories. Your beliefs are accessed. Your conscious and subconscious mind is in conflict. The subconscious mind wins, every time because your emotions rule. You can change your beliefs by changing your emotions. Hypnosis through hypnotherapy can do this. And it is easy.
Hypnotherapy treatments work in a very natural way, People are constantly capable of change, which can happen more powerfully in an altered state. In this altered state, which we call hypnosis, suggestions to the sub-conscious mind can supply us with the feelings and emotions that go with imagination and creativity to bring about changes within your feeling system, your emotional system, and this can change your values, perceptions and beliefs. It’s what makes hypnosis an incredibly powerful means to achieve your dreams.
Your subconscious mind has the power to end your struggle with your low self-esteem. Your life will improve if you begin to believe in yourself and your abilities, you will feel respected, giving you that extra boost to increase motivation, and your enthusiasm will increase noticeably. Some people say it feels like magic because it is so easy to make powerful changes. Hypnotherapy simply allows you to access the resources you already have in your subconscious mindZZZ

Yair Czitrom
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Drinking is known as the number one ‘panties/boxers remover’ in the whole world. We all know that we should not drink and drive, but what about drinking and running to bed? We are not so sure about that, and those who have experienced having sex after drinking will probably agree and remember how big the mistake is.
Here are 7 reasons why not to drink and run to bed:
*The mature lover
The mature ladies love to have sex and like all of us they have that need. If we are talking about the ladies that are quite old, they have defiantly that need and probably have not done it for a long time. She will wait for you while you get drunk in the bar, and when you are done with you 5 th drink she will get you. Some of you will say: ‘great’. Ok, we all have are style.
* Unknown sexual background
She is blonde, she has a great figure and she is willing to get to bed with you after the second drink…but she will wait until you are done with the bottle, so it will be more difficult for you the notice the ‘extra’ body part she has.
* Your best friend
You always knew that he is a bit different, and every time you have looked at a great looking girl’s breasts, he was looking at her boyfriend’s ass. Even though he does not fancy you, he will after the 3 rd drink, and you start to have the ‘;I need some sex’ feelings. After your 3 rd drink you start compromising…and then you wake up in the morning! Now you need to face it.
* The Weight issue
She is sexy, she is pretty, she does not say no and she is about 15 sizes more then you when it is coming to fashion. The sex might be great, but you back aches will be there for years to remind you that moment when you said YES to her…when she asked you if it is ok if she will sits on you.
* From the outside and underneath
Yea, she looks amazing with that mini skirt and when you drink, you do not really get down to the bottom of the details, but the next day, just thinking about what you have been licking could make you sick.
* Act of force.
She looks great and she wants sex…but she is also very ‘active’ person. If you are into it – great, otherwise, you might find out that the woman of your dreams is a sado queen that wants you here and now as here little wick salve. You might find out that her meaning of sex includes cleaning the house and some other things that you do not really feel like when you are drunk.
*The sticky punch line
All went extremely well. You guys had an amazing evening, and you might even love her for that…but now you will have to pay for it for the rest of your life…as you were so drunk that you married her.
If you are really looking for a one night stand come to http://www.onenighstanddate.com…it is free.

Jean Mahserjian
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Winning at Custody is one of the most difficult issues parents confront in divorce. In many cases, both parents want custody and are willing to spend whatever it takes to win. Custody is all about what is best for the children – and that involves proving that you are the best parent – i.e. that the other parent is not as good a parent as you and/or that the other parent is just simply a bad parent.
My recommended tips for winning at custody are:
1. If you are not involved in your children’s lives now, you are not getting custody from a judge. If you are a working parent who lets your spouse handle all of the details of parenting, you are not prepared to win at custody. You must either change your objectives or change your parenting. If you really want custody, get involved now – in all aspects of your children’s lives. Get involved in your children’s schooling. Attend their extra curricular events. Take them to the doctor and dentist. Get to know what professionals your children see and be involved with them?
2. Make sure that you are not exposing your children to unsafe or unhealthy environments when they are with you. Are you involved in another relationship? Has there been more than one? Be very careful about exposing your children to your companion(s). Many judges, professionals, and other parents object to the children being subjected to other relationships too early in that process. More important, if you really want to win at custody, it should be because you want to spend time with your children parenting them. Spending time with someone else when you have the children is a recipe for losing at custody in court.
3. Do you put down your children’s other parent when the children are with you – either consciously or subconsciously? If you do, stop. One sure way to lose at custody is to hurt the children’s relationship with the other parent. A judge will consider whether a parent promotes or prevents the other parent’s access to and relationship with the children when seeking custody.
4. Winning at custody requires that you keep a calendar for everything. You need to be able to look back and remember details when it comes time to litigage custody. If you do not know when you had the children, what events you attended, where they were or you were or allof the times your spouse was not timely for a pick up or drop off, you will only hurt your own case. You can keep track on your own calendar, with your own journal, or with a professionally managed calendaring system. We do provide access to a professional calendaring system for custody cases on our web site at http://www.millenniumdivorce.com/custody-planner.asp.
5. Be on time…Be on time….Be on time. Few issues cause as much conflict as a parent who is persistently late in picking up or dropping off children. It irks the judges, it creates arguments with your ex or soon to be ex, and it stresses out the children. So, Be on time.
6. Be flexible. If the other parent wants to switch weekends or weekdays, do it if you can manage your schedule. When the time comes to tell the judge why you should have custody, you can tell the judge that you are the parent who makes sure that the schedule works. In a close case, this issue makes a difference.
7. Do not involve your children in the issues that are pending in court or with attorneys. Courts generally are very opposed to the children knowing the details of what are essentially adult issues. Children should be told that both parents love them and want to see them – that’s it. The children may see a psychologist and/or an attorney or other professional if the court directs that. The children can talk to those people about your case – you should not be giving them the details, especially if giving the details involves denigrating the other parent.
8. Winning at custody requires considering one other very important factor: where do the children want to live. It is not a good idea to coach your children on this issue. They will have an opportunity to tell what they want to either the court, their attorney or a psychologist. However, it is a good idea to know what they want. If they want to live with their other parent, you should not spend all of your time and money pursuing custody, unless you believe that it is unsafe or inappopriate for the children to live with that parent.
9. You do have to be willing to show why your children’s other parent should not have custody. So, you need to keep track of whether that parent is on time, involved, and flexible with the schedule. If that parent has any issues that affect custody, such as a history of mental health issues which impact his or her ability to care for the children or alcohol or drug addictions, you need to let the court know. Other issues that can and do affect custody determinations include the number and frequency of romantic relationships and the epxosure of the children to those relationship, the proper supervision of the children, and ensuring that the children attend school and see professionals such as a doctor and dentist when necessary.
10. Above all else, hire a good attorney and be open and honest with your attorney. Listen to your attorney, not some friend or relative who is sure about what you should do because they had a friend or a relative who got a better deal. If you are paying your attorney, listen to what he or she has to say.

Yair Czitrom
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A big question. I am sure that everybody on this planet would like to know the answer to that.
A few years ago, I worked for a British time share company. I am sure that right now there are many people twisting their faces: “time share? Oh. No! “. I agree – But this is not the point of this article.
While I was working there, I took some intern course in body language and “The art of sales”. Since then EVERYTHING i want to “sale”, I manage to. By saying everything, i mean business, things that I want from my wife, from my kids, from my friends and family and so on.
How do I do that, you ask? Well, here it is. You can try to use this method in every field, and I promise you it will work:
As an example, I will use my first date with my wife which eventually leaded to our marriage.
Picture this – My first date with her, nice restaurant, candle lights, wine and music (you do need to set the scene first).
She came; we said hello to each other, ordered some wine and then the “sale” started.
KISS – Which means: Keep It Simple & Stupid. This is a very important point in the whole conversation. The more info you give freely, them more they need to think about. You should give info about your self, but try to think about what you say as you can talk too much and give some info that should not be given…at least not right now.
WH questions – As the conversation roles, try to ask as many WH question as you can: why, where, how, what…You need to gather as much info about them as you can to understand who is sitting right now and talking to you, what is his/her type, what does she/he likes…Why is that so important? As I asked my future wife on that first date all the WH question, I found at that she is a “homey” type, love romance, love to coddle…If I would right away start talking about me and my “wild” life, I would probably missed her interest in me. I do not say you need to be someone else just to get their attention, but trying to “win” this meeting.
Tea or Coffee – Now you have gathered all the info you need, and it is time to start closing this deal. You are not about to close it now, but we need to get closer to the goal of our “sale”. Tea or Coffee questions are BASED on the info you got earlier and now you try to focus on the points. For example: “so what you are trying to say is that you rather be at home then go out to wild parties?” or “so… what do you prefer, Madonna or Jimmy Hendricks?” With this type of question you are now minimizing the info you got to more focused answers.
The Closing – You have now got the info, got the focused answers, it is time to “close” this ” Sale”. What you want to do is to get a yes or no answer (depends on you) from them. If you will get that answer – You have just reached you goal. Who do you do that? Very simple. Use ALL the info from the entire evening/meeting and concentrate on the particular questions you wan to get yes or no answers to. For example: “so what you are saying is that if I could make some nice dinner for you, just as you like, with candle and wine, could we meet again?” Of course, you are waiting for a “yes” here. It is EXTREMLY important to use finishing statements at the end of your questions, like: “so you do like coddling, don’t you?” Use you head to nod as you ask it..it gives a “mirror effect” on people and they can’t help not nodding back.
As I mentioned at the beginning, you can use this technique ANYWHER on EVERYBODY…trust me it works, but as everything in life, you need to practise and a lot.
Hope you can and will use it in your life.
Yair Czitrom
http://www.Jaters.com – Free Jewish s dating service

Fatimah Musa
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Relationship problems either with your spouse, family, business partners or other people affect your personal growth, success and well being. If you value your relationship, you need to make better decisions and take specific actions to make them work.
Here are some ideas to help you avoid or solve relationship problems.
Understanding personal values.
What are your personal values? Misunderstandings and conflicts happen when your values conflict with those of others and when expectations are not met.
You can let others know what your values are by telling them about your ideals. You can find out about others by asking questions and observing their decisions and actions.
Knowing what’s important to others and yourself will avoid breaking each other’s rules and unnecessary conflicts.
Learn to listen.
People want to be heard and appreciated. When you listen attentively without interrupting and probing, you are showing courtesy and respect.
Give time and make yourself available. Allow people to talk and tell you things; the books they have read, the things they did and how they feel.
Listening to others will also give you the opportunity to know how a person thinks about his world, values and expectations.
Show kindness.
Other than listening, you can show other acts of kindness. Smiling is the simplest act to show friendliness.
Make others feel your warmth by offering help and kind words. Acknowledge their talents and achievements. Give praise and appreciate their efforts.
Show it in your tone of voice, your posture and your actions.
Avoid arguments. Remove ego and pride.
In an argument, each person wants to prove a point and defend her opinions. Using force, threats and intimidations rouse resentments and ill feelings that will then cause more relationship problems. In the end, no one actually wins and benefits.
Remove your ego and look at the situation from a different point of view. It does not mean that you are submitting but altering your perception. You can alter by asking questions or break the issues apart. It will enable him to see it differently too.
Forgive people. They could have been ignorant or unaware. If you have made a mistake, admit and apologize sincerely.
Give more than you take.
Don’t wait for others to give and show their care. You can give your love and appreciation even when others are not treating you right.
Contribute your time and effort without expecting anything in return. When you do good deeds for others, you feel more worthy.
Learn to ask and to share your feelings.
Ask for what you want and expect but don’t demand. People can’t read your mind and understand your hints. Make your request lightly and with a smile.
Communicate and share your thoughts and feelings with them. Open up and allow them to understand you.
Develop the trust.
Trust is the foundation of relationships. Do what you say you will do. Keep to your promises. Once people trust you, you can influence and persuade because they will listen and pay attention.

Deal Girls
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Looking for a great romantic present for your wife, girlfriend or fiance? We recommend personalized jewelry – personalized jewelry is a very romantic gift and it could be personalized with different things, such as a name or the first initial. Your gift recipient knows how special she is, because the gift with her name or initial on it is just for them.
We have put together these tips to help you find a perfect piece of personalized jewelry for that special woman in your life. Here are our tips to help you find that perfect personalized jewelry:
- Personalized Rings. Personalized rings make great gifts. You may personalized a ring with different things. Personalized couples rings may include first initials or birthstones of both people in a couple.
Or, personalize that ring just for her – there are many possibilities. Rings personalized with a birthstone are great, so are initials rings (a ring personalized with her first initial), or name rings, rings with her name on it.
- Personalized Necklaces and Pendants. Personalized necklaces are very popular; necklaces personalized with a first name of the wearer used to be all the rage a few years ago, and they are still pretty popular.
There are many different personalizations to choose from. You may pick for the name to be written in regular letters or script letters, and you may pick a birthstone to be added to the necklace. Personalized necklaces and pendants come in many different looks and concepts. Take a look at a few different ones, and pick the one that reflects the style of the woman you love.
- Personalized Bracelets are also very popular, and there are many to choose from. Some bracelets are personalized with the recipient’s name. Others may be personalized with both of your names. Yet, others may have her birthstone or a few of her birthstones on it, making it one of a kind bracelet just for her.
Next time when you are looking for a romantic gift for the one you love, get her a personalized piece of jewelry. You will be glad you did – she will love it!