Online Dating

Ron King
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While bachelor parties are a tradition dating back to the 1800s, bachelorette parties have become popular only recently. Bachelorette parties seem to be more about the bride-to-be bonding with women friends than the male tradition of enjoying a final night of freedom before marriage.
A New Tradition
Some brides choose a night of frivolity, such as male exotic dancers and lots of alcohol, much like the groom’s bachelor party. But the majority of women opt for other activities. The theme of most bachelorette parties is to tease the bride in a fun way, while sharing a memorable evening with her best friends.
The Nightclub Scene
This is 1 of the most popular bachelorette activities. Parties often start with dinner at an elegant restaurant, followed by drinks and dancing at popular nightclubs. Hiring a limousine to drive everyone together from destination to destination is a great idea. First, it allows all the women to travel together and party in transit. Second, it adds a touch of class to the evening. And perhaps the best reason is to ensure that everyone arrives safely at their destinations.
The women in the bachelorette party will often create a veil for the bride to wear on that night. The style of the veil isn’t important, so long as it is conspicuous and calls a great deal of attention to the bride. It’s also typical for this type of party to send the bride on a scavenger hunt. The other women get together ahead of time to create a list of activities for the bride to accomplish or objects to find. This type of bachelorette party is a great way for the bride to enjoy a night of dinner, dancing, drinks and fun with her best friends.
Retreat To A Spa
Spa retreats have become quite popular as bachelorette party ideas. The bride-to-be and her friends get together at a spa to enjoy relaxing massages, facials, manicures, pedicures and other treatments. A steam room, sauna and/or hot tub adds an extra element of relaxation.
Some spas provide great meals from a selection of healthy dishes. This type of bachelorette party lets the bride relax and connect with her friends while leaving behind the stress of planning a wedding. Many brides get so caught up in the details of wedding planning that they forget to enjoy the wedding. A spa retreat bachelorette party is a great solution.
Exotic Dance Lessons
A little more risque, but lots of fun, is exotic dancing lessons. These parties are becoming more common now that pole dancing classes are beginning to spring up in health clubs. For these parties the women gather at a private home or a dance studio, and a professional dancer comes in to teach them the art of exotic dance. This can be a great way for friends to let loose and have fun.
Night Of Feature Films
Another unique bachelorette party idea is for the maid of honor to host a movie night. The hostess rents plenty of movies to select from, and stocks up on movie theater style goodies or creates a menu of hors d’oeuvres. This could be the bride’s last chance to sit around with her friends watching “chick flicks” for a good long while. This is a fun, safe, and relaxing way for the women to get together to talk and have a good time.
Female Bonding
Although a new phenomenon, the bachelorette party is quickly catching on. It does not have the same feel as a bachelor party — instead of a last night of freedom, it a night to bond with women friends.

Giuseppe Notte
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Guys who have lower self confidence when it comes to women like to think that they don’t “deserve” to get the kind of women they want deeply inside. Well, if you belong to this group I have good news for you. Just keep reading!
I usually put women into 3 categories: in the first there are ugly or average looking girls. In the second category there are girls with “supermodel” looks. And I named the last category, “girls you really like”. The first needs no explanation. The second category changes by time and fashion: currently, it’s girls who are 180cm tall, who weigh 50kg and who have mostly blonde hair and a certain type of face. When we talk about “hot girls” we like to talk about girls in this category. But what about the third?
Have you noticed that there are certain women you have “a thing” for? These girls don’t resemble the actual trend in supermodels. At least not in 100%. They are taller or shorter. They might have a bigger nose or smaller lips. They might not have the biggest boobs. But there is one thing in common: you will have a “fetish” for these girls. A little thing or feature on their body, which attracts you like a magnet.
Let’s see my case as an example. I love shorter (but slim) girls who have a very fragile body-type. Are these girls 180cm tall as the current trend in supermodels dictates? No. I also love girls with exotic faces or certain exotic features on their faces. Do these girls have a baby face like supermodels should? No. Do I still like these girls? Of course! If I am with a girl like this, am I getting the kind of women I want? Of course!
I’ll share a secret you will like: Oftentimes, these unique types of girls you find attractive will find your type attractive as well! When I was younger and less successful with women, I have noticed getting signs of interest from these girls I had a thing for.
Later I realized that it was somehow made to be this way: I respond to their looks and they respond to mine. As I talked to many guys since then, I had to realize that I am not alone: most of the guys experience this! I don’t know if there is a logical reason behind this phenomenon, but it’s not important at all. What matters is that you can attract the kind of women you have a thing for damn easily!
I don’t say you should restrain yourself from going for supermodels. But do not let the trends dictate which kind of girls you should date and which kind you shouldn’t. The above is the type of women, which could give you a lot of joy and happiness.
Finally, if you want to know how to seduce the kind of women you want, there is an e-book I’ve written. I cover each step of the seduction process, from understanding the way women think, to learning to be a Man who attracts girls with his presence, approaching women the right way, secrets of making your dates successful and effective, improving your sexual life and a lot, lot more… Whether you are ugly, bald, young, old or broke, the techniques I teach will work for you like charm!

Udo Vieth
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The uncertainty of your partners fidelity can literally ruin your life.
If you are a commited member of a partnership, the suspicion, that your partner may not be as commited or even straying, can weigh heavily on your mind.
Thoughts of what they may be doing right now,scream across your consciousness all the time. You can’t focus on your work, or any other activity. Like a cancer destroying your body, these thoughts, are destroying your mind.
Chinese water torture would be a relief compared to what you are going through. You need to stop it- right now.
Do whatever you need to do, to preserve your sanity. Think about how you want to handle the situation, when you confront yor partner. Keep your cool. If emotions get to take over, you may say things, or do something that is stupid and that you will regret later.
You might decide to gather proof first. Look out for telltale signs, changes in behavior, change in shedule etc. A sudden loss of sexualappetite with you,should send off warning bells.
If at all possible, try and get some help, to see you through this time. Friends or professional help is important. Get some information and facts about your options, and how to handle the situation.
Unless you want to go absolutely mad, resolve the issue some way.
An affair need not be the end of a relationship, thoughit very often is. Either way,the level of trust that existed before the incident, needs to be reestablished.
Counseling and a renewed look at your mutual value system is mandatory. A permanent dissolution of the partnership may not always be the optimum solution. Always try and get an unbiased opinion, before making any huge decisions.
Whatever happens, remember that true love can conquer all.

David LeVine
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I want to share with you the key to finding the Right One and getting married the quickest way possible — guaranteed.
It’s not hard, doesn’t cost any money, and takes only about one minute a day. You already have all the tools you need to make it happen, you just need to apply this for one minute every day.
What will guarantee that you find the Right One and get married the quickest way possible? A key ingredient is to believe in yourself, and I am going to show you why it works, and how to do it the right way.
The word “manifest” means to turn a thought into a thing. Everything you see around you — cars, houses, the table, a pen — were all once thoughts that someone turned into a real object. When you manifest something, you make it appear in the real world. Now as a single person, you have an idea that you want to get married, and what you want to do is manifest that idea into reality, to be standing under the marriage canopy.
A key underlying force that allows you to manifest an idea into reality is to believe you can do it. We can all relate to times where the situation looked bad, but through sheer will and determination people beat insurmountable odds.
Consider a life-and-death scenario of being out in the wilderness alone. Gordon Smith, an instructor who spent 26 years in the U.S. Army’s Special Forces, says: “If you have a guy with all the survival training in the world who has a negative attitude, and a guy who doesn’t have a clue but has a positive attitude, I guarantee you that the one with the positive attitude is coming out of the woods alive. Simple as that.” http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/69/fighttosurvive.html
This heightened motivation of people in dire situations appears to be the force that gets them through. But that’s not the whole story. The amazing thing is what happens behind the scenes, the real secret to success. There is a stronger metaphysical component at work here.
Remember the Six Day War and the Yom Kippur War? The tiny State of Israel was surrounded by hostile Arab countries numbering over 200 million people. What happened? The Arab countries should have wiped Israel off the map in short order. Instead, Israel beat them all. Miracle!
We call it a miracle when we see a dramatic change in reality. In those wars we see an obvious change of reality — how God changed a pending defeat into complete victory.
On a smaller scale, you can use the same principle to guarantee that you will get married quickly. Let’s explain:
When you believe in something, the sheer force of your will can give God reason to support your goal. Based on your belief, God actually changes reality to make the thing that you want come about. For example: You want to get married, and if you believe with total conviction that you will find the Right One, then God can take your will and actually change reality to cause your soul mate to come to you.
Let’s look at the source of this idea, a story in the Talmud (Taanit 8a) about “The Weasel and the Pit.” In the story, a young man promised to marry a certain woman. She asked: “Who will be the witness to this pledge?” The only things in the area at the time were a pit, and a weasel walking by. With no other option and in all sincerity, the young man said that the weasel and the pit should be the witnesses.
Time went by, and the young man forgot his pledge. Then he began experiencing serious hardships — each time involving a weasel or a pit. In the end, he realized why these things were happening, and resolved to keep his pledge. He married the woman, and the misfortunes stopped.
Rabbi Chaim Shmulevitz gives insight on how this works. Obviously, the weasel and the pit have extremely limited powers. Yet when the young man initially designated them to be his witnesses, God took his sincerity into account and actually changed the reality to give the weasel and the pit the ability to uphold the promise.
The same principle is true for you. If you really believe in something, God may change reality so that it comes about.
However, this powerful idea is a double-edged sword. Just as it can work to your benefit, it can be to your detriment by bringing about something that is bad for you. Let’s say you meet a really great person on a date, and decide that you absolutely, positively must marry this person.
In reality, though, you may be temporarily infatuated with this person, and in fact they are really bad for you — and marrying them will be a disaster. Yet if you will it hard enough, and are over-insistent, it is possible that God will allow you to marry that wrong person.
That’s why, when you are dating, you should always ask God to help you marry the “right person” and not any specific person.
To summarize, there are two ways you can use this principle positively:
1) Believe in yourself.
If you truly believe that you will find the Right One and get married, then God can change the reality to make it happen.
2) Ask God to bring you the Right One.
The key here is to ask for “the Right One,” and not “that one.”
On a practical level, you need to make your belief real, by manifesting this idea — everyday, once a day, for one minute.
Here’s how to do it:
1) Say out loud: “I am ready to get married now. I am ready to meet him/her today. I am committed to being a giver in the relationship, rather than a taker.”
2) Make one small effort to find them: Check for the newest members on a dating website. Call a matchmaker. Signup for a Speed Dating event. Call a friend and tell them what you are looking for.
Small, consistent steps is the key to success. “By the inch it’s a cinch, by the yard it’s hard.” Meaning, if you take one small action every day, your small efforts turn out to be significant over time. You don’t need to work hard, just be consistent.
The more consistent you are, the more you reinforce your belief. By saying positive statements and making small efforts, you send a bigger message to God, who can make it happen.
One of my mom’s favorite sayings is, “Think big, be big.” And it is very true.
“Think marriage, get married.”

Andy Balasis
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Gay people find it very hard to meet up with each other as many people keep it a secret about what their sexual orientation is, this is to save themselves from harassment or prejudice. Although in this day and age they really do have nothing to worry about.
Many gay people find that the internet is a great resource for finding gay partners. The internet allows you to be who you want to be without prejudice so you can openly admit to being gay and not suffer any of the repercussions. A lot of internet dating sites have hundreds of gay members and they organise what is called ‘meets’.
Meets are events that gay people can go to and find other gays. It is simply a get together for both men and women who are interested in finding either a short or long term partner. These meets make it so much easier for gay people to find someone as no one is worried what anyone thinks of them as they are all the same!
Meets are fantastic events, any company that holds them is making a great effort to show that it doesn’t matter who you are you are still entitled to be with someone and not be alone, and that it should not matter what your sexual preference is. While dating sites are the most typical sites to offer this service you can find specialist websites that specialise in this sort of thing.
Gay meets are there for all gays, lesbians included. It is simply like a large party where no one is or should be afraid to be themselves. To find your nearest gay meet or party just simply log onto online gay club, gay personals, lesbian dating at www.onlinegayclub.com and start searching, you never know what you could find.Z

Ian Basford
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Online dating is fun. You could meet new friends and expand your social circle. Better yet, you might find the match you’ve been looking for.
If you haven’t tried online dating yet, here are eight simple guidelines for your success.
1. Start slow.
Try searching on reputable online dating sites. You should look out for someone who is too good to be true on the first time. You should trust your instincts.
2. Protect yourself.
You should not reveal your true identity until you feel comfortable about doing so. Do not instantly give your full name, contact numbers, home address, and other details where others can check your profile. Get a free email address, such as Yahoo or Hotmail, and use this until you feel confident enough to give your “real” email address.
3. Exercise common sense and caution.
Practice caution in easily trusting other people. Use common sense in making decisions. Take your time in determining the person’s integrity and motives. Pay attention every time you communicate. It is human nature to trust first, but try to be objective to begin with.
4. Ask for a photo.
Ask for a photo of a prospective match, not just because you want to see if they are good-looking. If possible, ask for several photos in different settings: Formal, casual, outdoors, and indoors. In that way you would have an idea of what he or she looks like.
5. Do not just chat online.
An electronic chat would not suffice. Talk on the telephone to assess the social and communication skills of your date. Avoid calling from home. Try calling from a cell phone or a telephone booth. Only when you are completely comfortable should you give your home number.
6. Meet only when you are completely ready.
Meet only when you feel secure and ready to meet your online date. Do not feel obliged or persuaded to meet the other person, even if he or she insists, if you are not yet ready.
7. Check for danger.
If you decide to finally meet, pay close attention to any violent displays, intense frustration or moves to control or pressure you.
8. Meet only in a secure place.
When meeting your date, especially for the first time, meet him or her in a safe place. Tell a friend who your date is and your plans for the night. Set a time during your date where your friend can call you and ask if everything is okay.
It is better to be safe than sorry. Online dating has some perks and can be genuinely rewarding, but it is important to remember that it can have its pitfalls.
This article is free to re-publish.Z

Alan R. Stafford
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What do you do when your marriage becomes routine? For many of us, the everyday routine of work, childcare, and bill paying extends to our lovemaking with our spouses. But, no matter how long you’ve been married, there are plenty of ways to spice up your love life. Let’s start in the bedroom – the hub of hubba hubba!
Gentlemen, start your engines
• Decorate your bedroom with pictures of yourself and your partner. Choose pictures that bring back happy memories of times you had as a couple. For instance, your wedding, a special date, or a vacation. Avoid hanging pictures of relatives: family pictures belong in the family room. It’s a real turn-off to see your grandparents and in-laws scowling at you while you’re naked and ready for romance.
• Speaking of mood: mood lighting can work wonders for a bland bedroom. Soft lighting helps to warm the atmosphere and it makes people look sexier too. You want to be able to see what you’re doing, without blinding your partner or having to grope around clumsily in the dark. Install a dimmer switch for a bedside lamp. Some people like to buy black lights (UV light bulbs available at Lowe’s or Home Depot) because the bulbs create the appearance of a sexy tan on your bodies.
• Roses, orchids and other scented flowers can fill your room with romance. Scented candles-especially lavender and pumpkin-are a type of aromatherapy that many people find arousing.
• Lock you door! If you don’t have a lock, get one. It’s almost impossible to lose yourself in the moment if you’re worried that you will be found out any minute by an intruding child.
Ladies, start his engine
Now that the bedroom is ready for action, it’s time to use it! Ladies, sometimes it’s best to take charge and turn him on for a change. Why should he have to instigate everything? Here are a few tips to get his motor running.
• Make the first move and continue to direct the action. Men get tired of having to call the plays all the time. Having a woman take charge will be something out of a fantasy for him.
• Arrange a night out, but keep your plans a secret. What could make your man feel more special than to have his loved one plan and pay for an intimate evening together?
Another way to show your partner that he is desired is to play up the little things.
• Leave little love notes in his lunch box and on his pillow. His coworkers might give him some grief at first. But, every other man will be wishing his wife left notes for him.
• Demonstrate a bit more affection in public. No need to embarrass him or make him feel uncomfortable. But mini massages, kisses on the cheek and toying with his hair are ways to let him feel that he is desired. Let the world know you’re in love. Let the world – and your man – know that you just can’t keep your hands off him. That’s a real ego boost for a man. He’ll appreciate it and feel flattered.
• Dress up once in a while. Toss off the flannel and turn up the glamour. Strut your stuff and remind him how beautiful you really are. When you were dating, you dressed to impress and to attract. Dress tonight like you dressed when you were dating
Every couple has their own ways of showing affection. Also, every couple needs to be comfortable with new ways of demonstrating romantic gestures. So, try some of these suggestions. See which ones work best for you-and for him. Doing the things you did when you wanted to get married might just be the things that help you stay married. Turn back the romance clock, and turn on the fun.

Dr. Alan Stafford, Relationship Results Coach
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Amy Spade
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WRITING OUT A DETAILED BUDGET
Although love and happiness are the finer details of a wedding, you have to face the facts and figure out a detailed budget. Now, what you include in this budget will depend on the type of wedding. So maybe you should start with that first.
Extravagant or Modest?
If you’re the kind of person that’s been dreaming of your wedding since you were born, then you may want to have all the things that the royal family may want. However, you will need to have a considerably larger budget. Symphonies and real dove releases are not cheap.
Sit down with your soon-to-be spouse and figure out what is really important to you. Or you may want to each write out what your idea of the perfect wedding is, and then compare notes. You will probably find that many things match. And for those things that don’t, you will need to figure out if they’re necessary and something that you both want.
It seems that many couples split right down the middle in terms of a budget. One person is usually more lax, while the other tends to count every penny. Use this to your advantage. After you’ve figured out what kinds of things you’re including in the budget, then you can determine if there are inexpensive ways to accomplish them.
This is your first lesson in compromise. Some things will work, others will not.
Who’s paying?
When it comes to the bill, most of the times, the bride’s family will be writing the checks, but in these modern times, it can be any combination of relatives or even the couple as well.
When you’re starting to make out your budget, you want to figure out who may be paying to see what kind of limits you need to impose on your plans. Although it may be fun to plan out the wedding first and ask for the dough, you may find that your ideas don’t quite match those with the check book.
So the best advice in planning out your detailed budget is to figure out what things you simply can not imagine your wedding day without. Then figure out how much money you are able to spend (thinking carefully upon extending your finances into debt-it’s only one day!) and see what else you can fit in.
Weddings have a funny way of working themselves out and being beautiful without a lot of drama, so relax, this part really isn’t that bad.

Lisa Gonzalez
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Women around the world know what a “bootie call” is, some of us have been in the predicament and the rest of us only hear the sad stories of those who have been sucked into world of bootie-calls only to be heart broken. What most of us don’t hear about is how to avoid the entire bootie-call situation to begin with and that’s what you’ll learn to do in this detailed article…that’s not for the faint of heart!
A dear friend of mine, I wont mention names because she knows who she is suffered a great deal and it was all thanks to the bootie-call syndrome.
Yes, there is such a thing as a bootie-call syndrome, it’s a disease with symptoms and treatments, so it deserves no lesser of a name.
Allow me to set the scene to explain what happened to my friend, pay attention because it could happen to you.
After a string of miserably failed relationships basically due to just bad boyfriends my single friend fell into a state of depression. She felt that she would never find that perfect companion, there was no one on this earth intended for her, she felt worthless, unattractive and after a couple of years living the single life, she was tired of being alone.
One afternoon my friend and a co-worker went out for lunch at a restaurant-that’s where it happened!
A man sitting a few tables away stared at her, when she would catch him looking at her she would look away as not to draw even more attention to her but the damage was already done. Each time she looked his way, he was looking at her and the more she would look him, the more signals he was sending her way by winking or nodding his head.
Let me point something out quickly, a “normal” single lady (if there is such a thing) wouldn’t have given this bozo the time of day but under the circumstances, my friend thought it was cute behavior.
My friend and her co-worker sat and giggled over lunch, whispering about this man’s actions until he strolled over to her table using every corny pick up line in the book. Commenting on her eyes, her clothing, her smile and how he even liked the sound of her name.
To make a long story shorter, a few days later my friend phoned me in tears because she slept with this man. She felt like a tramp, she was ashamed and hurt by what she allowed herself to do. My friend had never given into such temptation for someone that she was simply attracted to, she wasn’t even sure that she was attracted to him but she only knew that she was carried away by the attention he gave her.
And that my friends, is exactly the basis of a bootie-call and it happens to many unsuspecting women every day. If not monitored closely, it can evolve into the bootie-call syndrome and be emotionally devastating for a woman.
Luckily my friend realized what she had done and some time later when this man eventually did call, she gave him a quick boot!
So what can you do to avoid this trap? It’s simple really but requires discipline and the steps are outlined below.
Understand that love takes time.
Don’t get carried away with a moment, love does take time and fifteen minutes isn’t enough. If you’ve been single for a while, don’t “settle” for whatever comes along. You should know what you’re looking for, this is called your standard and you should never lower your standards.
Know that you are worthy.
Just because you’ve had a few failed relationships doesn’t mean you are not worthy of love. Don’t give up on having a deep, meaningful and loving relationship even if you’ve been single for five years or more. You possess qualities that someone will love, for that someone you’re looking for and that you will one day find.
Don’t speed up the process.
If you meet someone, you like them, your extremely attracted to them, everything is going well, you don’t see yourself being able to settle down with them and you feel the need to breed-don’t rush. Sometimes even the best of people can get wrapped up into the bootie-call syndrome without ever meaning for it to happen. If the feelings are purely attraction then end the relationship.
Market yourself.
There’s no better way to feel good about being single than marketing yourself. Get your nails done, get your hair styled, buy a new outfit and go take some pictures! Join an online dating service, post a profile, choose some respectful venues to post ads in search of your soul mate, tell your friends you want a date, join a singles club, hang out with friends every chance you get, don’t sit around at home and most importantly, be happy with yourself. No one can love you, until you love yourself and dealing with the aspects of being single is the only way to truly accomplish that kind of happiness.
Mr. Right can’t find you if he doesn’t know where to look.
Putting it all together!
When you know the dos and don’ts, this type of scenario is less likely to happen to you. My friend had to step back and take a long look at what happened. Then she made the appropriate changes, since she has in fact met a man who is madly in love with her and they are planning to get married next summer. Being single is hard enough without allowing yourself to make things harder, avoid a bootie-call if you want more.ZZZ

Elena Solomon
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There is a new type of dating that grows from inside the old, “dating game” mode – evolved dating.
What is ‘evolved dating’?
It is dating for people who KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. In other words, people who are aware of the dynamics of men-women relationships, body language, effective communication, who have their life together and who understand that there is more to dating than pick-up lines.
Those people DON’T need the usual dating games, playing hard-to-get etc, etc. Like high-level sportsmen, they can spot each other in an instant.
Those people are the ones that cannot be missed in a crowd, who draw all the attention, even when they are seemingly doing nothing.
They don’t lie or use tricks; they are refreshingly honest and straightforward. And they never feel ashamed or inferior.
They possess calm, relaxed confidence that is as powerful as a nuclear reactor. The people comment about them, “There is something special about you” or call it, “a presence”.
They simply look you in the eyes, and you start feeling weak at your knees. Your heart skips a bit and you start feeling dizzy. I have experienced this myself and seen this effect at work, once I learned how to do it.
You may now start wondering, how to gain such a power?
It’s extremely simple, and at the same time it’s hard work.
How can it be?
Because doing these things is really simple – but to make oneself doing them, takes commitment and courage.
It’s like giving up smoking – all you need to do is to stop buying your own cigarettes and borrowing from others. It’s really simple. But so many people have been smoking for many years and complain they cannot give up. (I have NEVER met a smoker who was over 20 and didn’t want to quit!)
People that are on the level of evolved dating are the people who are successful. My definition of success is: success is doing what it takes when you know you must do it.
Really simple.
Over the years I realized that there is really nothing new under the sun, and the simple things are the ones that work the best.
I have also realized that anyone can develop him or herself to the level of evolved dating, in as short a period as one year (or less).
The place to start is to STOP seeking approval of others. This will have an effect so dramatic, you can see the results in a month time – people will start asking you what happened and saying you have changed.
The key here:
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU IS *NONE* OF YOUR BUSINESS.
Most people worry all their life what other people will think of them, or what others will say, etc, etc. It’s like cutting your own wings. You can fly but you refuse because you are afraid what others may think.
You maybe afraid being the best you can be because you think others can feel uncomfortable in your company. The truth is, it’s exactly the other way around: by allowing yourself to be the best you can be, you give permission to others to be the best they can be.
Stop worrying about others.
You are the most important person in your life and you only have so many years to live on this Earth. Make yourself happy and stop taking responsibility for other people’s happiness. Your happiness is your choice. Their happiness is their choice. As long as they are adults, their happiness is none of your business.
And stop faking it.
You fake things because you are afraid the others won’t like you the way you are. The truth is, the others are faking themselves just as you do, to please you. If you are honest, you are allowing them to be honest, too.
This is what evolved dating is about, and this is why those people are so powerfully confident: they don’t fake it. They simply ARE. They don’t seek your approval and they don’t expect you to seek theirs.
Most people try to give themselves to other people. People that are on the level of evolved dating give you the gift of being YOURSELF. You don’t have to fake it with them.
You can reach the level of evolved dating, too.
When do you want to start?

Copyright (C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules (www.12simplerules.com)

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Ruby Boyd
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A lot of people say they’d like to have a super love life, but it all
boils down to the question, “Are you willing to work for it?”

First thing to do is to get physical.

When most people would choose a twinkie over an apple, you’ll have to
be the one who has the wisdom and willpower to choose the apple. In a
world increasingly addicted to TV, you and your mate will have to come up with the willpower to go out on a nature walk or bicycle ride.

Why?

Because you can’t have a healthy love life unless you treat your body
with the kind of love and respect that we’re discussing. We’re not
talking about a six-week diet, we’re considering a life-long program of better nutrition.

We are not advocating a three-month exercise program here to take off two inches from the waist; we’re pushing for regular exercise every day of our lives!

A good way to kick-start is with some cardiovascular exercises. The
Harvard School of Public Health reports that men who were physically
inactive were 40 percent more likely to experience erectile dysfunction than men who exercised a half hour a day.

A foundation of correct nutrition and regular exercise is necessary
before we can begin to think about a healthy love life. Eat to live
and love. Most of us do not realize how foods affect our moods,
feelings, energy level, and behavior.

When we get down in the dumps, we don’t automatically say, “Gosh, I must not have been eating right.”

On the other hand, when we’re feeling on top of the world we don’t stop to think, “I’d like to feel this good more often.”

We don’t relate how we feel to what we’ve been eating, but foods,
vitamins, and minerals can make all the difference in the world between a so-so love life and the kind of love life that makes you smile every time you think about it.

Many people who think they have sex problems are actually victims of
poor nutrition. They don’t have sex problems. They have food problems. And food problems can be solved.

Cut out or cut down on the use of alcohol, cigarettes, and coffee.

Avoid sugary foods and drinks and fried, fatty foods. Sugar interferes
with the sex life and reduces its pleasure.

Cut back on milk and wheat products.

Substitute herbal teas for coffee and regular teas, juices for
commercial soft drinks.

De-stress and relax. The physical effects of long-term stress
include colds, ulcers, asthma, heart attack, stroke, and chronic
fatigue–all ailments that can erode your health and your love life.

Couples can de-stress together at the end of the day in more romantic
ways, such as enjoying a lathery bubble bath for two, complete with
scented candles, and a mug of warm milk and honey. Or just watch a
movie together.

The goals are to spend quality time together and put you on the path
to total relaxation. It all takes effort to improve your love life–
there is no substitute for balanced foods, no shortcut to good health
but if you work at it, you can achieve a healthy love life.

Just about everyone agrees that a nice dinner and a good bottle of wine at a quiet, intimate restaurant will set the mood for romance, but have you seen the price tag? Not everyone can afford to spend big money on romance ever time, but a bit of creativity can get the same results without breaking the bank.
While most people know about ‘his and hers’ items like bathrobes and towels, there are a number of other items that can be enjoyed together as ‘couples’ items. Try getting matching T-shirts with cute sayings on them. Have matching his and hers overnight bags, coffee mugs, bicycles, cell phones, cars, holiday ornaments, tennis rackets, rocking chairs and even matching carved pumpkins on Halloween.
Surprise your partner by making the ordinary a little more special. If he or she is enjoying a good book, remove the bookmark and replace it with a note that says, “I bet you’ll never guess where I’ve hidden your bookmark.” If they always turn the TV on when they come home from work, tape a note on the television that says, “Wouldn’t you rather turn me on?” instead.
Making important memories is one way to be romantic on a budget. Challenge your partner to remember the most romantic kiss that you’ve seen in a movie. This will lead to some discussion about romantic kisses and should enhance the mood. As a surprise, buy that movie one day and try to recreate that special romantic kiss! Keep it in a special place and re-watch it whenever the mood strikes. If you can’t agree on the single most romantic kiss, go ahead and create a top five list. This tip works for anything. The top five most romantic songs. The top five most romantic movies. The top five most romantic books. You see the pattern. Make sure to go ahead and buy the books, songs, movies or whatever so you can use them in the future.
If you want to plan the ultimate romantic evening but funds are low or you simply don’t want to have to leave the house, shut down the electricity and imitate a power outage (it’s up to you whether or not you tell him or her!). You won’t have any distractions or heat, so it is up to both of you to keep the other warm and entertain each other.
It’s hard to find anyone who doesn’t enjoy an Oreo cookie. Take an Oreo (or generic version of one), scratch the top of the cookie until smooth and then scratch a heart and your initials into the smooth surface. You can also make your own cookies and create personal messages. Another version is to make your own cupcakes and frost them with special messages in red icing. You can also give your spouse a true treat and track down a box of his or her favorite Girl Scout cookie.
These 5 simple ideas are sure to warm up any relationship. Don’t be afraid to try simple tips and changes to “routines” to spice things up without having it cost a fortunZZZZZZ

Caterina Christakos
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How to Make Him Fall in Love with You? This is a question that women have been asking for ages. Most women believe that you have to be gorgeous to catch the attention of a good looking man. Or thin. Or famous. Or any number of things that pop magazines have spoon fed us over the years. The fact of the matter is that you do not have to look like an anorexic model in order to find your Mister right and make him fall in love with you.
Don’t believe me?
Well, here are examples throughout history of plain women who have won the hearts of gorgeous, rich, powerful men: Take Cleopatra for example. While no photographs of her exist, and most people see an image of a young Elizabeth Taylor who played the part in the 1963 Hollywood film version of the Queen’s life, historical documents reveal that she was actually quite plain looking. One goes so far as to say that she was “hook nosed.” And what of this 1670 quote by Blaise Pascal from his book Pensées: “Had Cleopatra’s nose been shorter, the face of the world would have been changed.” Yet she rose to assume her position as Queen of the Nile when she was just 17 years old.
And then there’s Helen of Troy, another woman who was not particularly to-die-for beautiful. She went down in history being known as “The Face That Launched a Thousand Ships.” And those thousand ships weren’t trying to run away from her either. In fact, her powers of seduction were the primary cause of the ten-year war between the Greeks and Trojans.
My point is this, you do not have to look like a supermodel to win the heart of the man of your dreams. You just have to learn the power of seduction that these women used on a daily basis.

Nathan Patmor
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We are often asked for help in finding a woman‘s g spot. To support you around this, we’ve created a simple, easy exercise that takes about an hour. Be sure to try it when you have space and time to do it fully.
You’ll notice that much of this exercise deals with the time and set up BEFORE you actually try to find the g-spot. This is intentional. It is so important that a loving, intimate space be created. It is only through this that your lover’s g spot will come “out to play”. (if you’re old pro’s – we’re assuming you already have your own short-hand around all this, so we’ve written this for beginners, though there are likely tips here that you will also find useful)
Time Needed: Approximately 1-1.5 hours, preferably in the late evening, an hour or two after dinner
Steps to Prepare:
1) try to sleep well the night before and eat well the day you plan to do the exercise. being well rested and “clear” in your energy is helpful
2) plan to have a light healthy dinner, and don’t eat until you are full. We want you both to have light, clear energy and eating a large complex dinner can work against this
3) after dinner, set your partner up to enjoy a nice drink, good music, a book, etc. for about an hour. If at all possible, I recommend running a bath for your partner, so she can feel pampered, be opened up by the warmth, and feel clean and ready for what’s in store.
4) during this time (while she’s in the bath, or quietly reading, etc.) excuse yourself to do final preparation to your play space (you could have also done this earlier … its just important, if possible, to set this up without her having seen it – so it feels like you’ve created a special sacred place for her)
5) some helpful things for setting up a sacred space: candles, incense, special sheets/pillows, sexy mood music, massage oil, lube, etc. Also, set up the area where you’ll be working with your partner – it could be on your bed, on a massage table, on cushions on the floor, etc.
6) change into loose, lightweight clothing (or even a bathrobe, sarong, or a towel) – really anything that you will be comfortable moving around and doing massage in
7) if you can’t do all these steps – don’t worry! just breathe, smile, open your heart and have fun.
Getting Started (5 – 7 minutes):
1) Invite your partner into your play space – and ask her to lie down in the space you’ve set up for her. In attitude and tone – you want to show that you’ve gone out of your way to set up safe, sacred space for her
2) In whatever way you feel its most appropriate, express your appreciation to your partner – thank her for all she does for you, for her loving nature, and for her willingness to share and explore her g-spot with you. It is a rare and intimate gift.
Massaging Your Partner (30 minutes):
1) Massage your partner, slowly and sensually for 10 – 15 minutes on each side. The intention of this is to create intimacy and connection between you, and to further relax your partner. It also helps her open into your touch and become more receptive. Its very important during this massage that you not touch her clitoris or vagina.
2) Long, sensual strokes that include her butt, and breasts are encouraged, as are: kisses to the back of her neck, light sex talk in her ear, nipple biting/blowing, etc.
3) Remember – there is nowhere to go, nothing else to do – just ENJOY. Your partner will enjoy you as you enjoy touching her.
Amping Up the Energy (5-10 minutes):
1) Now that your partner is feeling relaxed (and likely just a touch turned on!) you can begin to entice her further. This could include: kissing, nipple sucking, yoni massage, toe sucking, clitoral stimulation, etc. (I’m sure you get the idea : ) The main thing is to keep taking it SLOW, and don’t go inside her yet. This will likely feel very strange for you if you are used to just touching so you can have sex and orgasm. In this exercise, you are not going to be having sex – and your touch and play is so your woman gets super HOT and AROUSED. Again, do not go inside her yet!
Finding The G-Spot (10 minutes)
1) At this point, we’ll assume your partner is aroused, and hot, and begging for you to be insider her. If this is the case – WELL DONE! If not, continue your play using the above steps until that’s the case
2) Get situated so that you are both comfortable. For this next part you will be inserting your finger’s into her vagina, as well as touching her clitoris. Sometimes you can do this sitting at her side, or you can also kneel between her knee’s.
3) Take time to get yourself comfortable. Talk to your partner, ask her and sort it out. Don’t be shy – you will be in this next position for 20 minutes, and want it to be comfortable – and a few extra minutes now are well worth it
4) Slowly insert your finger’s into your woman’s vagina and massage her from the inside. Play with her shallowly, deeply, at the back wall, in the front wall, etc. Take it slow, use saliva or lube to keep everything wet (you can never have too much lube!), and Enjoy.
5) WOMEN: It is important, during this part of the exercise, that you and your partner be communicating about what you like, what you’d like harder / softer / more of / less of / etc. This is an exercise to LEARN – and your partner needs your feedback and advise to be given verbally and explicitly throughout. Trust us – its worth practicing and pushing through any discomfort you might have.
Stimulating the G-Spot (15 – 20 minutes)
1) Now, its time to begin stimulating the g-spot. Insert a finger (or two), about 2 inches, and then slightly crook them. You want your finger’s facing forward, sorta like you are making the motion of “come here” with your fingers. You’ll be touching the front side of her vagina, with your finger’s wrapped around her pubic bone.
2) From this place, experiment with a variety of pressure – hard, soft, light, etc. We’ve found its often best to start touching as if your finger’s are windshield washers – with a constant pressure, sorta going back and forth
3) [WOMEN: Give your partner feedback about what feel's good, and what doesn't – help them learn how to drive you wild in bed... Its well worth it! You can also experiment with clenching your PC muscle to see if this heightens your sensations]
4) You may feel a particular area which is more rough than other area’s, possibly ribbed or bumpy. This is the g-spot. As you stimulate it, the gspot will often become larger and more present as it get engorged. At this point, some women prefer harder pressure, but most prefer softer pressure (so the opposite of the clitoris)
5) Once you’ve found the gspot, and have a way of touching the area that your partner is enjoying, add in some stimulation to her clitoris. You can also push down with your hand on her pubic bone by placing your palm in the middle of her pubic hair. This accentuates your pressure from inside.
6) A magic combination is to touch the gspot with your index and/or middle finger while stimulating her clitoris with your thumb (good lube helps this greatly). Now, while you are doing this, imagine an arc of electricity going between your fingertips – connecting your thumb and your finger – and arcing through her clitoris and gspot.
7) At some point in this women, you may find you feel like you have to pee. If this happens, don’t worry. Nothing is wrong – just stay relaxed and go with it. (you may be in for a fun surprise and an introduction to female ejaculation!)
If you don’t orgasm from this exercise, don’t worry! It’s main purpose was to help you learn more about finding the gspot, how to best stimulate it, and to build intimate connection and trust with your partner. It can often take several repeats of this exercise to start feeling your gspot.
9) [VARIATIONS: try stimulating the gspot during and after orgasm, try different pressure, strokes, angles, etc.. try it with one hand, two hands, you touching the clitoris, while your partner focuses on your gspot, etc. try using a pilllow or two under your butt to change your angle. Most of all – experiment, give feedback to each other, and enjoy yourselves]
Wrapping Up (5 minutes)
1) At some point – either after orgasm, or otherwise – you’ll feel the energy shift and it will be time to wrap the exercise up. At this point slowly and gently place one hand cupped over your partner’s vagina, and one hand open on her heart. Look into her eyes, and take a moment just to be present with each other.
2) Take a moment to breathe together, and enjoy what you’ve just experienced. Use the next 5 minutes to share about your experiences – what you enjoyed, what you most liked, what felt good, etc. Its always important to start with the positive. After this, you can think about what you’ll do differently next time.
And, that folks, is the end of our Guided Exercise for Finding the G-Spot. We hope you’ve fo as helpful as we have.

Elena Solomon
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I have used and worked for several dating sites, both free and paid.
I know Internet personals from A to Z.
And I came to realize that free dating sites were awfully expensive.
Want to know why?
First, free dating sites attract all types of rubbish: Nigerian scammers, Russian “mail order brides”, and all types of unstable and wicked people that were banned from quality services. Those people have too much time on their hands (or it is their full-time Internet rip-off occupation) and this is why they don’t mind to hang there.
On the other hand, since the website is free, they do not have much staff on hand to look after it, and check on possible scams. So scammers are free to go wild there.
Second, free dating sites usually make their revenue from the ads they show to their members. In other words, they aren’t really interested in you actually FINDING someone on their site: they would rather have you frustrated and clicking on the ads you see on their site.
Another venue is selling your email address to mass-mailing companies, or running mass-mailings themselves. It means you risk being bombarded with hundreds of commercial emails, day after day.
Third, I find it appalling that a person cannot find some twenty bucks to pay for a subscription. As a woman, I want to KNOW that the guy I am talking to is at least capable of paying his own rent.
If I were a guy, I would also prefer a woman who is capable of looking after herself and doesn’t think a man is there to provide for her.
Forth, the software on free sites is often inconvenient and the customer support sucks. I prefer things that work as they are supposed to.
Fifth, for a busy person like you and me, filtering through heaps of bogus profiles can be maddening. My time is valuable. I’d rather spend it meeting someone for coffee than talking to people that aren’t even real.
On a paid dating site people have invested something in the process, so they are more serious and don’t play games.
Sixth, for all the reasons outlined above, quality people tend to avoid free dating services. Their time is too valuable. If you want to meet a quality person, you are unlikely to meet them on free sites.
All in all, I have realized that using a free dating site is awfully expensive. I simply cannot afford it. It costs me more in time and effort, which I could use more productively – like running a dating coaching session, or writing an article.
I’d rather pay for subscription and have ten times less frustrations and ten times more results.
What about you?

Copyright (C) 2006 Elena Solomon, author of 12 Simple Rules (www.12simplerules.com)

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DATING TIPS FOR SHORT GUYS
Okay… so at your tallest most rigid stance, you stand only 5’4. Who cares as long as you have the personality, the sense of humor and the confidence to pull it through?
Dating short guys is not necessarily the horrendous mistake a woman will make. In fact, most women agree that height does not matter and often dating short guys is even better than dating their overgrown counterparts. They might dream of a tall Lancelot to whisk them away but in the end, qualities such as intelligence, wittiness and ambition outweigh all else.
So dating for short men should not be a source of anxiety but neither should you take things for granted. Here are some tips guaranteed to make dating a breeze for short guys.
Dress wisely
Appearance is important. Short guys who are dating should take careful heed of what they wear and how they wear them. There are ways to make short guys appear taller when dating. Wide pants, tweed pants and cuffed pants must be avoided at all cost. Short guys, when dating, should also stay away from double-breasted suits and horizontal stripes. They should instead wear straight leg pants, lightweight fabrics for pants and shoes with a little bit of platform. Pinstripes and single-breasted suits will also flatter the figure of a short guy when dating. Clothes in the monochromatic will also give an illusion of height.
Be clean and groomed
Short guys who are dating should also take time to style their hair and take care of other personal necessities and not just their clothes. Practice good grooming. Keep your hair short and your clothes clean.
Show off your personality
Dating short guys may not be the dream date that most girls ask for but it could be close. Compensate for being a short guy by giving her a big dose of your sense of humor. Show her that dating a short guy can be fun and hilarious.
Listen attentively and be genuinely interested in what she has to say. You may be a short guy but you are considerate and a gentleman.
Exude confidence
Nothing can make a short guy appear taller than confidence. It will straighten your back and keep your head up high. Mentally think about all the things that make you better than the next “tall” guy. Remember that appearances are not everything. Love your self and the one you are dating will come to love you too. Nothing turns off a woman than a man who is insecure.
Go out there and meet people
Short guys won’t go dating if they stay at home and mope. Do not feel sorry for yourself. There are lots of short guys out there who are dating and having the time of their lives. Join organizations. Do volunteer work. Go to bars with friends. Watch a movie. The more people you meet, the more likely you will meet a person that is not only willing to date short guys but who will also genuinely like you.
Go after short women
Face facts. Tall women would usually go for taller men just to keep appearances. If you feel that tall women would not give you a chance, then go for the shorter side of the spectrum. For sure, short women are also as anxious about dating as short guys.ZZZ